Seeking Shelter From a Stranger

We were trying to beat the storm as we stopped briefly at a fire station in Warsaw, Indiana. "Do you have an update on the storm?" I asked the firefighters who were leisurely sitting at their station but observing the weather reports. "It looks like it’s going to be a bad one," they said.

The series of storms were tracking across northern Indiana as we tried to make our way home to Elkhart. We were driving a small car with my young family. Driving a Chevette was rather cramped as our two boys strapped in the backseat with our baby daughter taking up much of the room in her car seat. "I think we can make it," I said to Cindi. Prompted by what the firefighter said it seemed as if the storm would allow us a quick yet safe passage through a back road so that we could get home before the worst of the storm was to hit. There were threats of tornadoes and heavy rain and even hail. There were pop-up showers everywhere.

We quickly made our way along our usual path, through back road that met up with State Road 19. The sky was looking rather grim but we felt the assurance that we could get through this area and be ahead of the storm. That was a big mistake. 

As the skies opened up and the heavy rains fell we felt the battering of the winds. I quickly turned on the radio which was issuing alerts all along the area that we were traveling. "We’re not gonna make it," I said to Cindi yet trying to convey a sense of confidence for the sake of the kids. She could see the look on my face which was one of worry and anxiety. We both thought the same thing, we’re going to have to stop somewhere and seek shelter. We were in the middle of the country with very few houses. As the storm was getting worse I decided to go ahead and stop at one of the houses in hopes that we could seek shelter from a stranger.

As the rain poured I frantically knocked on the door on the little white house. Never mind my anxiety for the storm I never considered the fear of a stranger answering the door. "I am sorry to bother you but I have my family in the car and it looks like a tornado is in the vicinity. May we come in?" I said to an older lady. With little regard for herself she quickly said, "Yes, indeed, bring your family in, and quickly."

I motioned that was okay to come in and quickly went out into the pouring rain to gather the children. We were soaking wet as we enter the house but our host and stranger quickly gathered up a few towels to rush us into the basement. "Thank you, thank you very much!" my wife said. We were relieved that we were out of the storm but concerned about the seriousness of the situation. The storm still loom and yet threatened. On the radio we were hearing reports of serious damage in the area. Spotter alerts had indicated that even the road that we were traveling on had a tornado that was on the ground and the rain-wrapped threat was nearby. We stayed sheltered in place for nearly an hour as we were hunkered down into the basement hearing the winds and rain that pound against the house.

To our relief the storm did passed and  the stranger and host became our dearest friend. Her hospitality provided us the safety we needed and we were soon to learn how close we came to the danger as we made our way home later that evening. Indeed a tornado did touch the ground and within a mile of our shelter there was substantial damage that gave clear evidence that was all too real to us.

I share the story with you because even twenty-five years later the emotion of that evening still seems to course through my veins and upon reflection caused my heart to beat a little extra. Cindi and I often reflect on that moment and even our kids remember the fear of that afternoon storm and the shelter from a stranger. Years followed and whenever we passed that home that served as our shelter our children pointed out the car window and they would say, "There it is!" 

Events in our lives seem to offer moral lessons for ourselves and our children. It seems as though the ministry we were to be involved in seemed to be impacted by that one experience. Often our home became the place for strangers when I would pick up people hitchhiking or those who needed a warm meal. My wife knew that we were the shelter for someone in need. Even years later when we became licensed foster parents we were the strangers who were offering shelter to youth at risk. For years we offered a safe shelter for teenagers who needed a safe place from their family and even the harm they were to themselves. Teenagers who are proned to negative conditions would eventually find a place of nurture and boundaries of care. My wife knew how to create hospitality, even at times feeding 15 or more around our table as other youth would gather. We spent many meals talking about hopes and dreams with those teenagers. That was our form of evangelism. As they talked we would simply say, "I believe you can do that." We would instill their value in God and His ability to help them fulfill their dreams.

There were risks of course but the rewards were greater. Being able to help another person was far more of an impact on our own lives than what we could ever provide for those we attempted to serve. Our rewards came through the feelings of doing good and helping others as well as the occasional words of thanksgiving. There’s something motivational about helping others that can only be explained by the feelings we would experience.

Of course not every metaphor in a story meets with every situation. There was excitement and fear of a thunderstorm by no means a comparison to the routine placement of a child in a strangers home. There are similarities but the raging storm that has often impacted a child or teen is in out-of-home placement had passed by the time they came to our home. There certainly were feelings and concerns that a child felt coming into the home of a stranger but we seldom took shelter in a basement and worrying about the damage of a passing thunderstorm.

Shelter of a stranger means being willing to be a person of hospitality while also being prepared through prayer to meet the needs of another. We always welcomed the opportunity but seldom realize the full impact of what we were presenting to our family. As we opened our home to foster children we were always reminded to be completely dependent on the Lord to guide and even help us to love someone who was also a stranger to us. But at the same time it was also easy because there were simple acts of kindness that we could provide that became solutions to ease the tension and provide care to those seeking shelter at our door step. Just as the stranger in the storm twenty-five years earlier provided towels and even freshly baked cookies to us the strangers at her doorstep, we too could provide simple acts of kindness. I don’t mean to say that being a foster parent is always easy. Yes, there are challenges but if we start with the basics, somehow God is able to equip us and provide for every need.

Impact ONE and You Change the Lives of Many.

What if I told that if you could make a million for only a $1 investment, wouldn’t you want to know how? Or what if I told you that making the difference with one could exponentially impact the world, would that make you curious enough to try?

"When you lead one person to Christ, you reach everyone they encounter as well." - Fred Stayton, Pastor of Columbia City United Methodist Church.

I was in church at the Columbia City UMC Church when Pastor Fred Stayton made this very statement. He was talking about the difference that we can have when we reach just ONE person. After reading the parable of the good shepherd who left the 99 sheep to find the lost ONE, he challenged us to make a difference in the life of just one other person. He encouraged us to reach them for Christ and the impact will make a significant difference in the lives of many more. His simple faith statement caused me to image what I could do in my simple journey through life. "When you lead one person to Christ, you reach everyone they encounter as well", said Fred Stayton, Pastor of Columbia City United Methodist Church.

This prompted me to write this blog and to just imagine the impact that we can have by reaching one person at a time for Christ. We all know the Dr. Billy Graham became an incredible evangelist and America’s pastor. 

Dr. Billy Graham shared that his conversion came as a result of a shoe salesman named Edward Kimble who led Dwight L. Moody to Jesus. Even in his time, Moody was known as one of the greatest evangelist, preaching to millions over to continents. It was through just one person who reached another and another until finally we pick up the story of Dr. Billy Graham who came to know Jesus. The conversion of Billy Graham

What was true for them and  also true for my family, though perhaps not the dramatic influence as they were. For my family the It was through a neighborhood revival meeting that my brothers Bob and Jim attended. They eventually ended up attending the Monroe First Wesleyan Church and later my parents came to know the Lord. Eventually calling several of us into full-time church ministry but impacting other siblings for Jesus as well. Most of us were impacted by the ministry of Sunday School teachers. Nelly Ihrkey was one of our Sunday school teachers who loved children and loved Jesus. Her classes, during my preschool years are memorable even to this day because she taught lessons using a sock monkey and an incredible love for us. Her simple, yet effective teaching has had an impact on my family and now my grandchildren. Simply making the difference in one person has exponential impact on others.

What Pastor Fred at the UMC Church reminds us that we can make an incredible difference if we should choose to leave the 99 and go after the ONE who is least and lost all around us. 

Who is that one individual that you would like to reach for Christ? Who could you plant a seed of hope in the Gospel today that would yield a harvest of many souls?

Of course we know it doesn’t take much to make a difference in the lives of people.  Just by listening we can become a profound impact in the life of another. If we start by listening and respond quickly with loving words we can make a difference of just one other in need. Only what is done for Christ will last. We try to gather money, property, & stuff but these things will rust and be destroyed.

I love the saying that we impress people from a distance but we impact them up close. It is true that if we attempt to go through life trying to impress everyone, it will leave us empty and vain but if we serve to impact people up close, we will make any eternal difference. 

Matthew 6:19-20

"Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal."

Aged to Perfection - Tribute to Merle at 111 & 1/2 Years Young.

The following was written a few months back, with a few updates. This is a tribute to Merle who passed away today at 111 & 1/2 years young. 

Let me tell you a story. I first met Merle over twenty years ago when I was serving as a pastor in her church just outside of Chicago, Illinois. Merle is an unassuming, quiet, and very respectful individual. She is soft spoken and yet hard-working, who possesses a can-do attitude. Merle is not quite 4 1/2 feet tall and you hardly would notice her if she entered a room except for her loving qualities.

When you first meet her, you could not know the impact that she would have on you and other people. You are drawn to her because of her kind and approachable manner. You may not immediately know of her incredible influence on others but, as you get to know her, you discover how she makes a difference. You always feel better being with her.

One of first times I stopped at her home was in the winter, just after a fresh snowfall - and you must know that she was pushing 90 years old at that time. I discovered that she was shoveling her driveway by herself by hand. She wasn’t moving very fast but she was clearing a path. I jumped in quickly to give her a hand only to have her say, "I can do this, don’t you bother."

Stories are told that were legends in the annals of folklore, yet I assure you that she’s every bit the reality of those supposed fables.

I heard that she went to college – when few women did.

I heard that she ran her own business and even rented rooms - when few widows would dare do.

I heard that she would walk up and down the streets of her town selling books that she authored.

I once was the witness of her strength when she was confronted by a large man on her front porch. He clearly had the advantage and I even attempted to step in to rescue her but not before she threw the man off her porch; she physically, throw the man of her porch. I stepped out of her house and attempted to shield her from the man’s retaliate but to my surprise, all I could say to the man was, "It’s a good thing I’m here because SHE might’ve really hurt YOU."

Merle had seen a lot in her lifetime. She had a difficult home life growing up in Iowa; seeing two world wars, the great depression, and the invention of nearly everything. She has committed herself to influence the world through grace, charm, and a determination to serve Jesus.

I say all that because in order to understand leadership influence, you must fully understand that in her own way, she appeared defenseless and unable to make a difference yet she influenced everyone she met! 

She never really possessed a title or had the kind of promotion that would cause you to rank her a success in business or the kind of wealth that would cause people to turn their heads toward her. Yet, she carries an influence far beyond most even today.

If you think that you cannot be a leader without a title or status or certain lofty friends, you’re mistaken because Merle is that example.

Picture: Ministry from IWU visited with Merle to sing and pray with her.

Even at 111 years young, who, by the way is the oldest church member of the Wesleyan Church, in her passing she will be remembered as a gentle giant in faith and influence.

At her birthday celebrating her 110 year, (last year) there were many who gathered to give honor to her. There were Cousins. Friends. Coworkers. Also dignitaries like Mayors and other political representatives.

There were reports that were filed with news affiliates out of Chicago and newspapers who wrote articles about her. Each of them expressing a very special meaning to their interaction with Merle. See Chicago News Story.

Leadership is having influence like Merle; who doesn’t need to be loud or bossy or threatening or coercive and mean. It’s not a title or a special rank but it someone who gives what they have to help another. As I think about leadership I would encourage you to be thinking about Merle and you will likely be challenged by her can-do attitude.

As I reflect on Merle’s passing at 111 years young, I reflect on attending last year’s birthday, and when we finish singing happy birthday you could hear Merle in her soft very quiet demeanor call out to everyone, "I’ll see you next year". 

I want to wrap up our discussion and tell you something very special about Merle that I think should the challenge all of us. I mentioned that Merle has seen a lot in her 111 years of living. I told you that she is not known for her career. I told you that she is not known just for having the a boarding house in the city just outside of Chicago. She’s not known just for working almost every day into her 90s. She’s known because of the influence that she has on those that she has met. Interesting fact that she challenge all of us is that Merle is known as an author. 

She has offered articles and has written stories to her credit but what is what’s most interesting to me is that even after living a life time, well past the time that most of us will retire and would sit back to enjoy their remaining years. Not Merle. She begin to author her first book when she was in her 70’s. So, when you think you cannot accomplish something or make a difference in a persons life and be a leader with influence, I want you to think of Merle who has just finished her 12th book! 

A local television affiliate out of Chicago decided to do a news report and videotaped interview. At the end of the video the reporter asked her, "Merle, what’s the secret to long life?" after a pause Merle spoke up and said, "Keep breathing!"

See also a story about her 111th birthday: See celebration of 111th birthday.

View Celebration of Life-Funeral

Cold Calls - Making Them Warm Leads.

If you’ve ever been in sales or been part of a church group that has been involved in outreach, you may understand the phrase, cold calls. It refers to the initial meeting where the relationship is not previously known. In sales you may receive a list of people that you are to call and try to convince them to take a step toward your direction without the opportunity of developing a deeper relationship. 

For years I have been involved in making cold calls. When I was a paper carrier I would often stop at a home where the newspaper was not delivered to ask if they would like to subscribe to my paper route. I can recall these awkward moments at age 15. I usually brought a few extra papers with me so that I would offer them a free copy in hopes that the delivery service made it more convenient for them and the quality of news would entice them into being added to my route. When I was really young, around age 8 or so, my dad would pick children up to take to Sunday School on the church bus. Every Friday and Saturday I can recall going door-to-door to invite people, especially children and usually my friends, to go to church with me on the bus route. After adding them to the list of prospective attendees, my dad would have us call them on Saturday night to remind them to be ready for Sunday School the next day.

All throughout my childhood and even into my adult life I can recall many wonderful occasions of making cold calls. Door-to-door evangelism, or even selling a few magazine subscriptions would force me to overcome my fears. After a while you learn how to ignore your friends who would stand at a distance while you made those door-to-door calls. Or I would ignore the dog who wanted to have me for lunch. I don’t even remember how many tetanus shots I actually received after being bitten by dogs.

When I was a pastor I actually would enjoy going door-to-door to make an introduction about my ministry. There were some who simply never answered the door and they were others who curiously answered but weren’t necessarily nice about it. I met all kinds of people when I would go door-to-door and Now I have stories to tell my grandkids. Like the one time I was with my brother Jim when we went door-to-door and Lapel, Indiana. He pastored a small church but made every effort to invite the community to attend. I knocked on the door several times but Then I noticed that there was obviously an argument going on in the back room. At first it was faint but eventually I heard a few louder voices and even something that made a crash. I was standing there and didn’t know what to do next. I turned around only to notice the pick up truck that displayed a shotgun hanging from a rack. I often wondered if I did the right thing all these years later when I simply walked away and told my brother my experience. He told me that I should not worry but that he would take care of the matter later. I believe he said that to alleviate my guilt and the concern I had for that situation.

Going door-to-door making cold calls it’s something I believe everyone should try at least once in their lifetime. It causes you to think on your feet and certainly increases your faith. I have encountered people of every religion and of no religion at all. I have met very nice people and I have met people that I felt wanted to throw me off their porch, literally. I learn to roll with each and every encounter because, after all there’s a house next-door that you are needing to go to.

No matter the treatment no matter the experience you have to shake it off and move onto the next house. Sometimes you win sometimes you lose and then there are those other times that you don’t even have a category for what you’ve experienced.

In Luke 10 we find that Jesus sends out a group of his disciples by pairing them up and they literally go house to house to share about Jesus. He tells them to take nothing with them and he encourages them to be not only a blessing but to do miracles with anyone in need that they encounter. I think of all the dangers that the disciples went through, not at all unfamiliar with my experiences in my day.

I have knocked on thousands of doors and I have met many during my 31 years of ministry and my 53 years of life. I have done this in every community where I have lived. Even today, in my profession I am still knocking on doors with people I am unfamiliar with.

I have learned many lessons, in particular I have learned three main lessons on how to be successful when making cold calls. Perhaps this could be applied to nearly every profession but when it comes to evangelism, you could make the best application to these lessons learned.

1. Never give up no matter what they tell you.

I have been told many times things that would cause anyone to want to give up. I have been yelled at and I have been told to get off their porch. Don’t let someone who has given up on their dream talk you out of yours.

It’s never easy to remain positive when you are often discouraged. I have discovered in my long line of door knocking that if someone’s in a bad mood it has little to do with you so never take it personally. I don’t believe you can never lose when you talk about hopes and dreams.

People are very quick to in the conversation and they don’t always have proper etiquette in doing so. If you remain polite and considerate you will leave a lasting impression but if you’re treated poorly, just move on.

Jesus knew that they would not be excepted by everyone and so he simply used a metaphor that was common among the people that day. He said simply stomp the dust off your feet and move on to the next home. He essentially was saying that you should not carry any of the negative or hostile actions of that household with you when you go to the next home or meet the next person. Too often we are offended and we carry that feeling into the next conversation which in all honesty, it’s not fair to the next person we encounter.

2. Always ask questions.

Too often I have assumed that people wanted to hear what I had to say and that I would just simply plow ahead on my conversation. In recent years I’ve learned to ask strategic questions that would engage in conversation. I made every attempt to identify the opportunity by stating my objective clearly and then asking sincere questions.

I would often be well received when I would ask questions that started with how or why. There are many questions that start with those two words such as; How are you doing? Why do you believe that is true? When you lead the conversation, not control it you are more effective.

Most people see themselves as experts and if you remain positive and Humble you will generally learn a great deal about a stranger. Somehow your humility gains the advantage and people begin to trust you but if you think you know it all and you’re there to tell them they would generally be eager to see you leave.

I think Jesus understood that when he told his disciples to go and be a blessing into eat whatever is placed in front of them. The fact that the disciples were humble provided the advantage of building a trusting the conversation and relationship. Even without the newspaper and television the word about Jesus was spreading and many were curious and eager to learn about him.

3. Be willing to put their needs ahead of your own.

Sometimes we are one-sided about what we have to sell that we forget to listen and learn. What I’ve discovered is that people are curious and people are lonely. Usually these are the two areas that open for the dialogue. If people were curious it’s likely they would never open the door anyway. Have also noted that there are many who just love to talk to anyone. There’s a lot of loneliness behind closed doors.

One of the best lessons that I’ve ever learned is that almost everyone is polite when you invite them to pray. In most recent years I’ve discovered that when I go door-to-door and invite people to pray they are usually suspicious but polite. I often would say something like, "We are doing a prayer survey and wondered what your needs are or of your neighbor that our church could pray for." It was always amazing to me how many of them shared very personal details with me, stranger. Even doors marked "no soliciting" we’re very open to prayer.

Jesus encouraged his disciples to perform miracles and most especially to tell everyone that, "the kingdom of God has come near to you today." This phrase was a clear recognition about the power of God and his message. The work that they were doing was of the upmost importance and because the fields were white and harvest all they really had to do was be faithful to deliver His message.

Making cold calls may not be the most effective use of your time but it sure beats doing nothing. If you’ve prayed about it and you know that what you were doing is sincerely a good thing then you will succeed. You will encounter enough people to make it worth the time you spend with people. 

Someone once said that it’s more about the volume of calls than it is about the depth of the conversation. In sales, it has more to do with the amount of people you talk with or promote too, vulium matters. So it’s been said, but I don’t always agree with clichés. It may be true that the more people you talk to the more successful conversation you’ll have but what is more true is that if you are sincere and courageous, with gods help you can accomplish far more because he is with you.

We never read in Scripture about how effective it was for Jesus to send out the seventy-two disciples but I have to believe that Jesus would not have sent them out in vain. I have to think that he knew it would be effective. He indicated that the fields were ripe onto harvest which tells me that whatever seed you planted in the heart of people that God will give the increase. I believe God when He says that His word never returns void. It’s important that we water their thirst without watering down the truth of the gospel. They may not like the truth but they were respect you and your courage.

There are many forms of witnessing through acts of kindness as well as proclamation evangelism. Each form, and it’s on context is effective. I recommend both because there are a lot of nice people who do good things that do not know Jesus. Just because we are generous and we have wealth doesn’t mean that God will be glorified through our actions. It’s only what’s done for God that will truly last anyways.

We can bring cold call relationships into warm connections. If we are authentic and caring we can be a positive influence. We can turn cold calls into warm leads. Most people do respond in positive ways if we are invested in developing relationships that demonstrate kindness and friendliness.

Consider the following on how to be a positive witness. Do and Don't of Witnessing.

Hospitality and God’s Kingdom

Isaiah 58:10 -- Feed the hungry, and help those in trouble.Then your light will shine out from the darkness, and the darkness around you will be as bright as noon.

It’s really quite simple, if you feed the hungry, and do it in the name of Jesus, you are touching the Kingdom of God. In doing simple acts of kindness you are able to let your light shine and bring glory to God. It is been said that we are His hands and His feet, perhaps we are the only reflection of Jesus that someone will ever see.

I remember on several occasions when the Lord laid on my heart to entertain a stranger. There were times when I would pick them up when they were hitchhiking and there were times, to my wife’s surprise, that I would bring them home for a meal. Today, it’s not all that wise to do these sort of acts but there are ways, quite simple ways, that we can provide hospitality to strangers. 

The very act of hospitality is indeed a biblical expression and it is a demonstration of the very attribute of God. We see this demonstrated throughout the Scriptures as God’s people helping others. The act of sharing as a community or giving to others is a form of this. In Acts the breaking of bread and the distribution of food is also part of this. Later in Acts we find that there were godly people who were chosen to provide food for the widows in the early church.

hos-pi-tal'-i-ti, host (philoxenia, "love of strangers," xenos, "guest," "friend"; pandocheus, "innkeeper")

- Bible Study Tools

In modern days, hospitality is often a word that brings anxiety and stress. We think those times when we are having guest in our home, we worry about cleaning the house and bringing out the finest dishes. At the very core hospitality is simple. In our modern day and age when we want to impress our neighbors and friends, we want everything to be perfect. 

You may feel like those in this video that was published by Mainstay Ministries during their 50 Day Spiritual Adventure series. Picture yourself attending Entertainers Anonymous support group. View video here.

In biblical terms, this isn’t the case. Especially when we think about the needs of our most vulnerable, the poor, the oppressed, and children; hospitality means something very different.

In Luke 10 we find the instructions that Jesus gave to his disciples as they went out to announce the good news of Jesus. They were instructed to carry very little with them and depend upon the very hospitality of people, strangers in fact. Jesus said to them that wherever they go they are to announce this good news. They were told to welcome and eat whatever is put before them and to say, "the Kingdom of God has come near to you today."

In theory that is a good idea but in practice it’s not so easy. I remember being invited to come to her home after church one Sunday, this was years ago in my local church ministry. The family that invited us was not known for cleanliness, in fact we were quite concerned when we receive the invite. I told my wife that this is an opportunity to care and bring dignity to a family that was not wealthy. The day came when we were received in their home. The kitchen was a mess, there was a stench of older that lingered from the trash, the table was a mix matched set of plates and utensils and the food was, we thought, creative. There were hot dishes on the menu and there were cold dishes that were presented for the meal. The food didn’t taste bad but the ambience wasn’t exactly up to par. They had indoor animals that seem to take charge of the dining room. 

I thought of how difficult it could’ve been for even his disciples when they were to eat whatever was put before them and to share the good news with whomever welcomed them in their home. The picture became very clear to me that it wasn’t about the disciples and it wasn’t about us either. It was about the message of the good news. I assure you that we did not get sick and our worst fears were an exaggeration of our imagination. It was a blessing to be in the home of that family and they truly wanted to know more about Jesus. That day taught me many lessons in my ministry and there were many homes like this that I entered with a bit of trepidation but God always provided.

Allow me too set context to the meaning of what I’m writing about today. I’m a firm believer in capitalism. I’m not one who is convinced that socialism provides the best solution. Whenever capitalism is paired with compassion there is the opportunity to be benevolent with the resources we have. We are stewards in fact. Socialism, while it may seem to be biblical (Many to Acts 2 as an example) the truth is that we can be selfish whether we have little or plenty. I believe that when we are hospitable toward others, we consider their needs before her own and we serve to represent Christ by our actions. Models of socialism means that resources are taken not given. Most of those models do not work and have proven to minimize the work ethic and distort and dehumanize people. Often people are exploited.

Of course there are problems with capitalism because of materialism and greed but if we see our role, as God does, we are stewards of resources and we are as generous as we are compassionate. 

Hospitality, as defined in biblical terms is a simple way to communicate the good news of Jesus Christ by acts of kindness. Historically Christians have been generous and compassionate, even forming hospitals, and housing for the homeless. Reforms to the prison system have been developed by Christians and even Probation as an alternative for juveniles or adults who commit crimes is a Christian model. When we think about social service we quickly think of the compassion of Mother Teresa and the Minitries of the Catholic Church, community food banks are often managed by Christians. Whenever there are natural disasters most international aid comes from private donations of Christians and the church.

To practice hospitality is a way to share the gospel of Jesus Christ. Whether it’s in your home or the organizer of a community dinner, the practice of hospitality is an expression from the heart of our Lord, Jesus Christ.

Do you want to make a difference? Begin to practice biblical hospitality. Begin with those whom you know but remember those who are strangers to you as well. Keep it simple and be genuine, everything else is just extra. Remember to genuinely love in Christ will be seen in you and through you. God will bless and you will light up the night as noon!

Compete or Collaborate - Why Both Aren’t Possible.

Healthy competition isn’t bad. In a society where people believe everyone is a winner, the fact remains, there are those that finish somewhere after first place. There really aren’t healthy ways to reward everyone for simply showing up. Once you reduce winning to simply a participation award, you miss the reason for personal growth; we miss the reason why we need to further develope our skills.

To compete or collaborate is an either-or proposition not both-and  To compete is to challenge personal growth. Healthy competition moves those from the back of the pack to the front of the pack, or at least stretch their abilities beyond their expectations. After all, usually we compete because of an inner discipline and dream to accomplish more and reach beyond ourselves than what we thought we could.

What if what you are competing against is actually from the very group you should collaborate with? To collaborate is to be more effective and to reduce the duplication of services. Organizations that compete usually are defined by a market that they are trying to win but in the areas of social service, we are fixing an injustice or helping those less fortunate in our community. Those who collaborate are attempting to change the outcome of a social injustice. At least that’s what I’ve learned over the years of serving in  community organizations.

I spent most of my career, one way or another, in the ministry of the local church but often, along the way I found myself as a community organizer and fully engaged in the neighborhood where I lived. I was trained to be a pastor but the occupational hazard meant that I was also a social worker, a probation officer, a person who cried out when injustice occurred, and someone who was close to those in crisis. Every community I ever lived in I built for myself a directory of sorts, a list of services and organizations that I can direct people to whatever they needed help with. I was never the expert but as I often told people, I was one begger showing another begger where to find bread.

When I was a court appointed special advocate, guardian ad litem and when I was a probation officer, I discovered that I needed help to solve the many crises that people faced. I would write down the names and numbers of people and professionals who could help with whatever they were dealing with from early pregnancy, social services, food pantries, counseling services, and others who I felt could lend a hand when the needs were beyond my own reach. I served on committees and boards where we talked about how we could work together instead of competing because we all shared a common set of values and a community interest to help others. We strove to better our community. I found a spirit of cooperation, mostly. 

Of course, there were those who wanted to do go it alone; striving on their own. There were those who didn’t quite understand that we needed each other. On occasion, we would find that there were organizations that simply did not know who others were but were simply lending a helping hand. One of those examples was when I served as Director of Love INC, an organization we called "Love Clearinghouse". With over 90 partnering churches we found that each one brought their skills together to form a network of cooperative and collaborative ministries. We discovered that together we actually provided more services and expertise. Some churches provide food pantries. However, if multiple churches did the same thing, families weren’t getting the holistic help they needed but they were simply getting more cans of soup. Our goal was to minimize the number of duplicated services so that services could meet more needs; all services were provided by the community of faith which gave a collective witness of God’s love. We also offered a centralized management of resources where we could steward the benevolence of the church and even verify the needs we served. When agencies and organizations of similar values begin to compete with each other, it causes confusion at minimum. It caused unhealthy dynamics of mid-trust at its worst.

I now serve an organization that recruits foster homes. With over 20,000 children in out-of-home placement in Indiana, there’s plenty of need to go around. Is there a shortage of homes that would cause us to want to compete? I can understand that there are several organizations recruiting foster homes. Each may have certain distinctives in the way they raise money and how they administrate services but their objectives may be the same. It’s always encouraging to see the spirit of cooperation because, quite frankly, as many organizations that are out there recruiting foster homes, the need is beyond all of us. Are we in competition or is the shared value of a social injustice or community need to help vulnerable children and youth the real competition? Should we not join forces to compete against those forces rather than one another?

One day I went out into the community to meet with one of our partnering churches and came upon this startling reality. One agency, who does the very same thing we do decide to place their yard sign directly in front of ours. Not next to it or along the same block so that both are visible but right in front of the sign we had already placed in the lawn. This was one of our active partnering churches. It was simple fix. All I had to do was move my sign over three feet so that both could share the space and enjoy equal promotion. I thought to myself, why not give people a choice? Seems simple enough to me but then I saw it again, and again. It made me question, why are we fighting for space in a shared ministry opportunity. 

I shouldn’t be surprised because I’ve seen this sort of thing before. I’ve seen it when churches who compete for people to attend. While we both believe that people should be in church we tend to find ourselves competing. Instead of talking about the distinctives that make us unique or the "services" we offer, we find ourselves competing with those of similar values.

I do believe that healthy competition  raises the standards for everyone but when we compete against shared values or objectives, than we may be doing more than just competing; we may in fact, be missing the point all together. We may be spending vital resources fighting against the very core of what we believe.

I’m certain, like I’ve never been before, that each one of us fit into the grander scheme of all things. Each one brings their own talents and strengths, yet together we are able to accomplish more than we ever could alone.

There’s so much that divides us today. I love healthy debate and even conflict because it can help bring a greater understanding of our full potential. Civil debate is necessary if we are to grow. My friend said this remarkable thing to me once regarding politics. 

We need to put more effort into winning the human race instead of the political race. - Maureen

Society is only able to sustain itself  because of reciprocity; the exchange of positive values. Healthy values equal a healthy society. 

For Christians and other communities of faith who believe in the biblical value of the golden rule; do unto others as you would have them do unto you, we practice according to the rules of, "do no wrong." We believe that no matter what is reciprocated we should be willing to love and demonstrate respect to anyone, just as we would want for ourselves.

I contend therefore that in social service organizations we cannot have both competition and collaboration. They cannot co-exist. We have to decide which value we should embrace.

As my sons have often reminded me that in Track & Field events, they did not compete against their fellow team-mates nor against the opponents of a tournament meet. They would say, "We strive to better ourselves and in doing this, we better everyone else."

Ever Wonder Why?

Kids grow up way too fast. One of my favorite times in there very young life is when they question everything. Telling children to eat their green beans is usually followed by the question, why? It seems as if everything that you give instructions for to three-year-olds is followed by that question, why? Most of our answers are pretty easy but then there are some of those questions that we have to just say, "Because I say so."

Even as adults we have many questions. I’ve always wondered why Noah didn’t swap those two mosquitoes when they boarded the ark? There are many things in life that we have to ask the serious side of that question; why do bad things happen? When we see the injustice done to children it causes us to question why.

We are reminded often that God understands our grieves in our sorrows. Jesus is acquainted with our hardships and our losses. He understands when we are tempted and tested. I love the saying that is attributed to Chuck Norris:

We never know what the day will bring but we can know the one who brings the day.

Life takes many turns and can come up short of our expectations. We grow frustrated easily. I pastored for over 31 years and I know many of the sorrows the people face. I’ve been at the bedside of those who have been diagnosed with a terminal illness. I have sat with parents grieving the loss of their child in a fatal accident. I had a few words in those times when I would hear the bad news and I didn’t quite know how to comfort family members. Not all of those trials were related to illness, often it was financial loss or the shock of divorce. Difficulties and trials come in many forms.

First Peter 5:7 tells us, "Cast all your cares on Him because he cares for you."

I don’t believe that God is ever concerned or bothered by our questions and especially when we question, why? We were made to ask questions so that we could discover and rediscover the meaning and purpose in life. Life is but a vapor, it is soon gone like the morning dew but what lasts are the things that are eternal. His Truth is forever. 

To discover Truth we need to be people who learn how to trust. Trust is a relational quality that comes because we learn and we develop how to believe. This side of heaven I’ve discovered that I can trust those who were honest with me as well as those who do not lie to me. I can trust those who do not break their promises. I can trust those who do not talk about me behind my back or spread rumors about me. It takes a lifetime to build trust and it can be broken in mere moments.

I’m certain that there are times when someone put their faith and trust in me and my actions broke that trust. I know that even when I try, I can fail. There’s no excuse for it but, in reality, people can hurt us whether it’s intentional or not. Yet we are encouraged to build relationships and take the risk of loving others even though we could be hurt.

There is a quality of love that God, our Father provides. Even though our earthly parents can disappoint and our friends can hurt us, there is a quality of love that God can provide. We’ve all been there when someone has let us down. We also know of times when we are lifted up. That’s good news and it brings hope to every part of our lives here on earth. To be forgiven and to have the ability to forgive others is a tremendous gift that God gives us, through his grace.

I don’t mean to minimize the deep feelings that come with disappointing experiences. I believe that there are valid hurts and difficult, even painful times in our lives. I can recall deep wounds that caused me great pain that I carried with me for years. It was hard to explain why I felt the way I did and it was even harder to overcome these feelings of hurt and rejection. It’s easy for someone to say, "Just get over it." In reality, it’s far more complex. There are people who will go to counseling for many years trying to unravel this mystery of grace and forgiveness. I know for me, it was not easy.

Just like when our children or grandkids ask why, our Heavenly Father loves to hear from us as well. We love that they are exploring and searching, these are good actions. Our heavenly father knows that we don’t have His perspective. So, continue to ask and continue to seek because He rewards our persistence. We need not fear and we should continue to hope.

This side of heaven we may never know fully the explanations to all of our questions. How can we? So because of our limited perspective, let’s hold onto the hope we find in His promises and through His word. We continue to ask and we continue to search because in that we will find meaning to life. 

The scripture does say, "And we know all things work together for good to them that are called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28)

Thy Kingdom Come on Earth.

We have all prayed the Lord’s Prayer. If you’ve ever been to church it is likely that you have recited the prayer for Matthew 6 that the Lord taught his disciples to pray. But, have you ever really thought about it?

When Jesus told his disciples how to pray, Jesus not only taught them how to recite a prayer but also the various parts that are included when we pray. Prayer should be like breathing, it will sustain life.

Merle is the oldest living member of The Wesleyan Church. She is 111 years young. I had the privilege of serving as her pastor and she was our babysitter for our daughter when we ran our church youth group. She would pretend to be the baby while our daughter pushed her in the stroller. That’s when she was 90. Only standing 4 foot & 5 inches she is a giant in the faith!

In a interview by a television station out of Chicago, Merle was asked what her secret to a long life was. Soft-spoken and practical she simply answered, "Keep breathing." See Video. 

(Meryl passed away the end of August, 2018. She related blog –  A Tribute.)

We should always see prayer as a part of our daily life. The Lords prayer teaches us that there is a kingdom that is beyond this world.

We put God first in all things because he is above all things. Jesus knew that we are tempted to put ourselves first and becoming, "our own god." This is the very first lie told in the garden of Eden that we could be like God. Jesus was tempted in the wilderness he was told that he could rule over all nations. All he needed to do was to bow down and worship Satan. Jesus responded with, "You must worship the Lord your God and serve only Him." It is tempting to be powerful. We are encouraged to worship only God.

We also find that Jesus taught us to seek His kingdom, His will be done on earth as it is in heaven. When we think about heaven and we consider the troubles of this world we wonder how this prayer could come to pass. We question, how can this be, His kingdom on earth as it is in heaven? 

I love the saying, "What you do here today echoes for eternity." It is a reminder that God can use us to make a difference for eternity sake.

In the lives of many children and youth who are in the foster care system or waiting for adoption, we have to wonder what God‘s plan is and how the kingdom of God can make a difference in this world. Dr. David Wright who wrote the book, "How God Makes the World a Better Place" offers ideas about how God uses us as His instruments. We can make a difference. 

"A personal intervention with social systems. We help to make the world a better place when we work to create social systems that focus our collective efforts to improve the lot of our community’s least powerful members. We are concerned not only with the poor, but the structures that promote a healthy community where people can overcome poverty."

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When we pray "Thy will be done, thy kingdom come," we invite God‘s plan. Essentially we could say that prayer is the alignment of our will with God’s will. Henry Blackerby famously said that we should discover where God is and join Him.

That is essentially what I believe foster parents or those serving in social service are doing for the least and the most vulnerable in our communities. We know that Jesus loves children and we believe that it breaks his heart, as it does ours when we see children who are abused or neglected. They cannot care for themselves and are dependent upon guardianship to provide and protect. His will is in direct partnership with our desire to make a difference. Sin has entered our world which requires spiritual beings like you and me resolve to make a difference in the lives of these young people.

When Jesus was tempted the devil came to him and basically said, "Wouldn’t you like to be popular?" He took him to the highest place of the religious center of life. He sensually was trying to have Jesus do it his own way rather than allow God‘s plan to succeed. Jesus quickly responded that the Lord should not be tested. But isn’t it temptation we face but we often test God by choosing to do things our way. Even making our plans in the coming days or weeks. I put my events on my calendar. I do it, don’t you? 

The next part of the Lords prayer shouldn’t be complex to grasp. This part tells us that we are dependent upon God for our daily bread and the ability to forgive others.

When you think about it, God‘s provision and grace is enough to sustain us daily. Yet we have an appetite for more than what mere bread cannot fill and the ability to forgive others must come from beyond ourselves. The Lord teaches us that he is the provider of both. Our complete dependence must come from the Lord has with rightfully put him in his place and align our will with his will. Often it does come down to day-to-day. 

Jesus was tempted to use his abilities to turn stones into bread but what did Jesus reply, mansion not live by bread alone but by every word that comes from God. He knew that being temporal-minded will never satisfy the deeper and needs that we have. As we look to God, for eternal things, we find his ministry and his promises to be true in our lives.

What did He display after the great flood? Didn’t He say that He would not destroy the world with floods but reminded us that when we see rainbows we take great comfort in his great promises from His Word. 

The next time you recite the Lord‘s prayer, think deeply about the prayer you are praying. Put God first in all things, seek to align your will with his will, and depend on him for your daily needs by looking to His Word.

The Vulnerabilities Many Children Face.

Ask anyone and they will tell you that the most vulnerable in our society are  children. Not having the resources to manage for themselves, they are completely dependent upon an advocate and a provider to meet the most basic needs. Parents or grandparents, aunts and uncles are often the first line of defense in the care of these children. When that breaks down then it is left to others who serve in the role as parent/guardian.

Whenever we talk about orphans we often think of the musical, Annie or the famous line, "More, please!" from Oliver Twist. These have demonstrated with great popularity the hardships that or friends feel. Usually there’s a villain attached to the stories to bring to life the difficulties that orphans face.

But today’s orphan may actually be those residing in foster homes and residential care facilities throughout the United States and around the world. There are, of course orphans who are eligible for adoption and waiting for loving homes. In a recent study it identified that there are hundreds of thousands of these children in the United States alone. 

How Many Foster Care Students Are There in the United States? Check out the article for more details: Statistics on foster care and adoption.

Children are not statistics, of course. These are very real needs. If we could look at the faces of these hundreds of thousands of children we would often see the results of abuse in the collect and we would learn of their situation that caused the state and other agencies to step in to provide for their most basic needs. 

The picture above is of my grandkids. I would never hesitate to buy them toys or clothes because I love them. We have established a very strong bond of love and affection. They are very vulnerable Little people because they are often defenseless except for their loving parents and grandparents would do anything to protect them against harm. 

But what about those children who are neglected and abused, who will care for them? We are always grateful when the extended family steps in to provide for the needs of our youngest victims. We also honor the heroic efforts of those that have children in their care through the foster care system and those who also adopt.

The needs are great and often overwhelming. Francis Chan is famous for his support of orphans and I was in foster care. He states "Isn’t it sick there are as many as 1 million churches in the United States and 1/2 million in foster care and adoption."

He paints a terrific vision when he challenges the church that if, "One church out of every other church would care for a child this need could be met." That vision is a challenge of course but are usually met when you think about the mini caring communities we have in our country today. Maybe it’s your local church or small group or Sunday school class that can step up to provide some level of care and even support a foster parent who is on the front lines.

It’s easy to see the tremendous needs of children and youth who are abused and neglected. They are vulnerabilities can be easily met through Caryn communities and families.

It’s easy to see the tremendous needs of children and youth who are abused and neglected. They are vulnerabilities can be easily met through Caryn communities and families.

There are many vulnerabilities that include lack of consistent education, the need for faith and hope, a consistent and caring family, and a love that goes beyond meeting basic needs.

People of all ages, married and single, can address these needs become the care – provider meeting each of these needs for quality services, comfort, and care.

Ask yourself one question; What is one small act of kindness that I can do today that helps the most of honorable of my own community?

God’s Call in Crisis.

We all know about moments of crisis. Some live in crisis everyday. How is it that everyone responds to crisis in different ways?

Consider for just a moment the sunflower. It is easily planted and has few needs. It grows with little help from me. This year I planted about fifteen sunflower plants. They rise above every other plant in my garden! 

They produce only one thing; hundreds of seeds. If left to fall in the garden, they will become many plants next year. Birds and bees are fed by their seeds and pollen.

In times of crisis, we too can tower over all things and provide for others. Attitude is key to the ability to produce what the world needs. 

If faced with crisis you become angry and bitter, he will be coming even more distressed and anxious.

I met a waitress recently who, at best made minimum-wage and most dependent upon tips. Her economy wasn’t great. Watching her I noticed that her optimism was up-tempo and she was positive. She shared about several recent crises that she faced. One involved a pipe bursting which destroyed the floor of her home and the other was while she was traveling through a big city. She got a flat tire with her children in the car along a busy highway. She said that she is facing both situations with a positive attitude because, "It could be worse," she said. I did leave her a good tip and told her to be of good cheer.

The Word of God reminds us that in times of crisis our foundation is shaken. In God, He has given us a Cornerstone that, if we believe, we need not be shaken. Isaiah reminds us to believe. If we fail to belief we will be shaken! We know that optimism alone is not enough to carry us through the difficult experiences yet it is a great start and it helps to re-frame every situation in a way that is hope-filled.

At minimum, we need to trust in God. We don’t need to be shaken.

I recently met with a young man who I mentor. We played a fun game, Jenga. If you have ever played it you know that it involves pulling out blocks that puts pressure on the next move of your opponent. 

Our role in ministry is to serve those in crisis with optimism and courage. We are often the hope people need to manage through their crisis.

Proverbs 13:12 is a reminder that those who feel hopeless is heart-ache. Our role is to help people to be dreamers. It is a tree of life.

Psalms 33:20-22 is a great reminder;

We put our hope in the Lord.He is our help and our shield. In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name. Let your unfailing love surround us, Lord, for our hope is in you alone.

I am back!

Taking a break from your objectives can be therapeutic. In fact, there is a great perspective gained by stepping away from something for a while.

My last entry was left at a low point. It was not intentional nor was it because I dropped off the earth. It was just a timing thing. I needed to step away from the idea of Crisis Evangelism. Was what a new term at the time (2005) is now a common language with organizations like the United Methodist Church and Samaritan's Purse.

I have stated a new chapter in life and ministry. I am now working with churches to engage them around foster care and adoption in Indiana. White's Residential and Family Services - White's Website

This ministry is highlighted in my weekly newsletter - Fostering Family Values highlights positive stories related to families - foster homes and adoption. 

I hope to bring you more soon.

Rev. Rick Carder

Luke 22:15 - Jesus as eager! Consider this.

Luke 22:15 "Jesus said, 'I have been very eager to eat this Passover
meal with you before my suffering begins.'"

Jesus eagerly desired to eat with the disciples. He looked forward to
eating and fellowship with the disciples. Jesus seems to have feelings
for those attending at the Last Supper.

Today I ask why? What was He desiring?

Did Jesus have a concern for himself or his followers?

Was he concerned about his death?

Did he have great fondness for His disciples?

What was he eager to experience with the disciples?

Was it His message that He finally able to deliver?

I tend to think that Jesus was anticipating the message that included
His message of the cross.

...perhaps too His message of overcoming the grave.

...and too His bad news to Judas and Peter.

...His message of the Communion experience.

...or even His expression of deep fellowship.

Isn't it great that we can have such an eagerly anticipated relation
with Jesus?

Indeed! Consider this!

Philemon - Managing conflict from a biblical perspective

This article is a rough draft on the topic of conflict management.  It may never get published.  If it helps you or other believers, feel free to use its content.  I remember when I first begin to study this passage and dig deeply into its relevance for my life.  It was over fifteen years ago when I found my life circumstance in great need of biblical perspectives when dealing with conflict.  Over the past twenty years as I have served churches as a pastor I found many occasions when there was conflict. 

 

There are generally two reactions to conflict.  They are called the “fight or flight” reactions.  Seldom do we remain neutral. Our emotions are enacted and we response internally and externally.  We either stake out our territory or we concede.  The truth is that conflict is inevitable.  If you are breathing, you will face conflict.  You don’t have to look for it because it will find you!

 

In my ministry I have served in several areas of life that have been filled with manageable conflict. I have served as a pastor, court appointed special advocate (for abused and neglected children), juvenile probation officer and court liaison, foster care provider, police and jail chaplain, college administrator as well as community leader.  I have seen many examples of how unmanaged conflict can create unhealthy relationships and organizational dysfunction.

 

Here is the basic outline on the topic of conflict.

 

A couple of underlying perspectives:

Conflict is inevitable – it cannot be avoided or ignored…it will happen!

We must learn to manage conflict –

We can bring healing to broken relationships –

 

Overview of the passage:

Paul was confronted with a difficult situation. A slave, Onesimus puts Paul in a very difficult situation. He is forced to mediate between the two. Paul serves as a peacemaker – a kind of mediator (like Jesus) to bring two separated parties together for a healthy outcome. The goal is relational not obligation. The outcome is a demonstration of grace.  The following are several principles that helps bring structure to managing conflict and relationships. 

 

During biblical days the rights of the slave were limited. They were obligated to obey, serve and are treated without regard to personal privileges. The owner of slaves had the right and power of life and death.  Philemon had every right to execute Onesimus under law.  However, Paul addressed a difference justice.  He addressed the situation from a biblical and godly perspective. He was now addressing two believers as he managed conflict.  These steps help layout an action step for how to handle and manage conflict from a godly – Christ-like perspective. 

 

Notice right off that Paul’s attitude was positive and affirming. He set aside human tendencies and confronted a situation with grace and love. 

 

You can also see that Paul was assertive as he managed this conflict. He didn’t take sides or undermine. He gave godly wisdom that required something from both parties. 

 

Paul ask Philemon to find grace and set aside his rights.  Paul ask Onesimus to have faith and risk certain death. 

 

1.       Compliment – start with a positive expression – vs 1-3 (Paul started by focusing on God’s Grace.)

2.       Concern – express genuine concern for others – vs 4-6 (Paul prayed for and was concerned about Philemon.)

3.       Congratulations – celebrate relationships – vs 7 (Paul identified and focused on positive truth in the relationship.)

4.       Compromise – a meeting in the middle and concern for the bigger picture – vs 10-13 (Paul helps by pointing out the value of each person’s contribution and gives focus on the ministry – as well he begins to mediate and call for a compromise.)

5.       Choice – the right to be heard, understood and choose – vs 14-16 (each person has a choice. We cannot make someone reconcile.)

6.       Challenge – the need to overcome the conflict is usually based on someone making sacrifices – vs 17-20 (Paul leveraged his relationship with Philemon and he takes necessary steps to end the stalemate/standoff.)

7.       Confidence – an positive expectation for the right outcome – vs 21 (Paul is expressing confidence that God is working on Philemon to bring a positive resolve.)

 

VS 23-24 – Agreement/Accountability – it may be advisable to have others (a fellow brother) join you in confronting conflict.  Paul reminds Philemon that others are also aware and are in agreement with the outcomes that bring Glory to God.

 

Bottom line: VS 25 – THE GRACE OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST is the focus of a healthy outcome.  Where bitterness and resentment reside is pain and dysfunction.  Where there is love and grace there is hope, healing and peace.  Follow these simple steps and God will reward your spirit with mercy!

 

Written by Rev. Rick Carder.

Currently Director of Alumni Relations for the College of Arts and Sciences, Indiana Wesleyan University

 

Life is quiet...as usual...and it offers simple lessons.

Somethings just catch your attention when you live in the country.

A small farm tractor passes by the house. This is a common pattern today. The local farmer is gathering the rolls of field grass. Used for feed, the farmer must have collected nearly 20 large rolls.

As the sun fades into the horizon this lone worker gathers his harvest. The months of preparation now comes to an end as this farmer gathers his goods from the harvest.

It reminds me of the work we have as believers. We are commanded to share the truth about God's love which is often cultivating the soil, planting a seed, caring for the harvest, and then gather together the fruit of your labors. This simple outline defines the work of the Great Commission.

Well, enough said. Let us get to the harvest. Jesus said the the harvest is plentiful but the laborer are few.

Father's Day Thoughts

Today is Father's Day. It has impressed upon me as I sit in church today, I am blessed to celebrate the second generation of the Christian heritage upon the Carder family. Of course Cindi's side of the family is into their fourth generation. What a blessing to have inherited her family's blessing.

It was around the time of my birth that my father and mother came to Christ through the ministry of The Wesleyan Church in Monroe, Michigan. I am forever grateful for the ministry of this local church. This is an incredible story for another blog.

Now it is my generation who is raising a family for Christ. As i sit in church today i am joined by my daughter, Jossy on my left and Jeremiah on my right. I am proud of my children. (Jon is at boot camp right now.) The spiritual heritage that Cindi and I have attempted to pass on, while it is young, is for the third and fourth generation. I hope that what is experienced and the values taught will positively effect my children's children. (If the Lord shall prevail.)

It is really a joy to celebrate Father's Day as a believer. I have a father who is eternal who cares for me.

Jo Anne Lyon on Purity and Power

Jo Anne shares her heart at Wesleyan Church General Conference. She stretches delegates and guests to enter into the world because this is holiness expressed and demonstrated where the worldly trappings of self and status are left at the feet of Jesus.

She ask us if people see Jesus in our face! She reminds us that a pure heart and power of the Holy Spirit can transform a community. People are not attracted to us but to Jesus.

THIS NEW GENERAL SUPERINTENDENT OF THE WESLEYAN CHURCH HAS TAKEN THE SHIP'S HELM AND ENCOURAGING US TO BE PURE AND RECEIVE POWER.

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Local mission work!

Serving at a local mission - Brookhaven Class project. We served 100 meals.

Dungy book signing at IWU

Tony with Rick at IWU Convocation event

God's power displayed in beauty

The majesty and glory of God. Ever feel overwhelmed by God's power? This is out my back door of a passing storm. It looks beautiful on this side. For those on the other side - in the midst of the storm, it's presence is powerfully felt. Just a thought!

Connecting

EVER FEEL DISCONNECTED?

Read Acts 2:42

Here are several thoughts about this scripture and subject:

1. SHOWING UP

2. INTERACTING WITH OTHERS

3. TAKE THE STEPS THAT YOU CAN TAKE.

4. BE WILLING TO SHARE WHAT YOU HAVE.

5. MAKE THE EFFORT TO GROW IN ACCOUNTABILITY.

6. LEARN WHO TO PRAY FOR AND SPEND TIME IN PRAYER.

7. TX/RX - give and take relationships - like internet communication...it is a two-way street.

8. DEVELOP CLOSE FRIENDS.

9. DRAW OTHERS INTO YOUR "NETWORTH" - include those on the outside.

10. FIND A HURT THAT YOU CAN SERVE.

11 . BE WILLING TO GET DIRTY...BE VULNERABLE.

THESE ARE JUST A FEW THOUGHTS.

IWU Alumni Director Rapid Response Chaplain

Rick Carder, a volunteer chaplain with the Rapid Response Team, responded to the Northern Illinois University shootings.

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Indiana Wesleyan Alumni Director Rick Carder, a volunteer chaplain with the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, was one of those who responded to the Northern Illinois University shootings, February 14. As a part of the Rapid Response Team, Rick participated in providing ministry and care giving to the students, parents, and alumni of NIU. While there, he says, “The Rapid Response Team had the awesome opportunity to share the love of Jesus with many.” He reports that the team was “surprised and excited” that most of the people that they interacted with on the campus received them positively.

Life's challenges are mere opportunities!

The challenge in life...

Crossing each hurdle is not the toughest part; rather it is facing life 's hurdles that are your greatest challenge . Just a thought.

His Resurrection is amazing.

His Resurrection is amazing. His birth, childhood , ministy, miracles, teaching, death and life-evermore profoundly changed history from that very first Easter.

Resurrection Sunday means hope for

Resurrection Sunday means hope for the hopeless and distressed!
This Easter celebrate the One who has overcomer the grave !