Finding Center In Far Left/Alt-Right Worldviews.

Where do we find balance? Whether is our personal matters, politics, social causes, and faith, we all find ourselves in a difference place; balance is a challenge for all of us. How do we decide what is right and what are universal values that bring us harmony today?

Today, the biggest challenge is finding truth and applying our choices to what is the right way to live and love. We live is a very diverse world, both secular and religious. It is a complex set of ideas that can leave anyone bewildered. Even the most educated and respectful people can wrestle to know how their ideas and responses to other ideas impact our neighbors and community. 

Today we live is a society of extremes. The more active we engage the issues the more we are expected to comply to standards that are often leading down an unreasonable set of values. Without naming names, I think that anyone of us can see how much conflict there is in our social norms. Unless we become extreme we may feel the shame of not conforming. A new type of social pressure is building and the tension is to a breaking point. 

You and I are being pressured to take a stand on detailed expectations. Reason and debate seems to be tossed out. While expected to listen more intently, we are pressured to decide and become an activist. 

How do we engage in the hot topics of the day? Who can we learn about topics through critical thinking and not be criticized for not being expected to conform or become an activist? How can we advocate for social issues while not being restricted or pushed to comply to legalistic activities?

Take a moment to reflect on these questions. Take time to reflect on hot topics before posting a public opinion as if our belief will summarize the topic and conclude the debate in 144 tweet-able expressions. Rather than take a defensive posture for things that are said to you or things that you may disagree with, stop and be silent to pray for God’s direction before responding. “Patience can persuade a prince and soft speech can break bones.” (Proverbs 25:15)

Today, my intent to ask everyone to hold their thoughts and reflect on your response through a filter of humility and critical thinking. Today, we need to be thoughtful. 

In the age of far left and alt-right, it is really hard to find balance and provide a centrist persuasion. Reason is seemingly thrown out in exchange for emotionalism. While we are told certain facts, seldom do we have enough depth in the debate to for a healthy opinion. Most of us, including me, are not experts on many subjects. We follow slogans and catchy phrases. We read headlines but know few people who are impacted in real-time. Even if we can point to personal experiences, we thrive on personal painful examples that often do not mirror the actual context of any example. 

So, today, I invite you to process differently. I encourage all of us to not become "arm chair quarterbacks." That is, forming public opinion because of what was captured in video. We, all-to-often can be tempted react through a social media "like", "Retweet", "share", or even "mimic" what we see without really using critical inquiry. 

For me, listening and loving are still the standard that make the most sense. As we understand how to listen, really listen and learn to really love, as Christ loved and instructed us to love our neighbor as ourselves. The best rule is to activate the "Golden Rule" as found in the book of Deuteronomy and the words of Jesus. 

Can I encourage all of us to ask questions and to also walk alongside others so that we may gain a depth of understanding? What might happen if we look for Truth through God’s Word beginning with an ethic of love as God loves us? 

Too often we allow fear to dictate our actions and our feelings. It’s so important to need through inquiry and not through an inquest. It starts by listening. Nelson Mandela has approved, time and time again how valuable his wisdom is, even in today’s society as we wrestle through conflict. He wants wrote, “May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.”

Perhaps finding balance is to gain understanding truth with grace. I believe that at the foot of the cross the ground is level. We all come to God through Jesus Christ equally given grace, hope, and charity (Love) of Grace. How can we offer any less to others we encounter? 

What scriptures are your favorites that offer you hope? How can our response to pain and loss that others feel? How can our response to social injustice be hope-filled? How do we engage in the needs of others that promotes prayer, grace, hope, and transforming love in Christ; as we represent Jesus incarnate? 

As we make every effort to live a Christ-centered life, we are commanded to love one another and to love our enemies. It does not mean that we compromise our position and most especially our values, but it does mean that we make every effort to be people of peace. If winning the argument is your goal, it’s best not to engage but if your goal is to demonstrate God’s love and grace, and give testimony of God’s grace in your life than it’s worth pursuing a healthy discussion. 

My friend once remind me on a social media post how important it is to win the human race, instead of the political race. 

A (Not-so-new) Kind of Social Politeness!

Take your shoes off at the door. Stand back a little and give me space. Wait until the person has spoken before sharing your opinion. Don't drink and drive. Always wash your hands. No elbows on the table during dinner. Wait until everyone has been served before eating. 

These and many other phrases are often understood as being socially polite. They are a part of the very culture of a society or social group. These, often unwritten rules are a part of the very fabric of a healthy community. As long as we honor principles of polite manners and social norms, we show the value of others.

Today, we live in a complex society. Western society, by in large, have shaped rules of engagement and social order in a common language that is passed on from one generation to the other. It is what we teach our children. It is what we learn in kindergarten. These are a sort of code language that expresses value and establishes trust. If we break simple polite manners we are usually corrected and reminded. 

Yet, today we are seeing order and "a way of life" challenged. We are seeing excessive force and those in authority violate our desired way of life. We are seeing peaceful protest to call attention of injustice turn into a display of an angry mob, even looting and destruction of property. We are seeing that reciprocity as meaningless and chaos become the new order. We are witnessing the emergence of new social politeness. 

Another example is how we are seeing more people wear mask as a result of the Corona Virus. Many are increasingly concerned and other could care less.  I speak to pastor all the time and know of their ministry hardships. Pastors are telling me that as they begin to come together and attend church in person that there are those that are the mask-wearers and those that are in the non-mask people. Some have even told me that the one group is fighting and threatening the other to wear or not wear a mask. People even threaten to never come back to church until everyone is wearing the mask and ironically, so too the non-mask people. 

It is so challenging today to know how to respond to such extreme views. You may be judged harshly no matter what you do.

I think that there is a (not-so-new) kind of social politeness that is emerging. I am seeing more-and-more a social shaming on those that do not comply to their form of order.  I am seeing more-and-more people getting angry because of what they see as right. Today, we are even seeing many flex a mussel for a demonstration of "their rights".  These issues will not be settled soon or easily. 

I want to offer another (not-so-new) idea about how to expand the conversation, calling for harmony (that does not mean uniformity). Like in a choir or orchestra, the many diverse instruments and voices can create a beautiful harmony. While occasionally dissonance (the clashing of sounds) can be part of the musical melody, it is the harmony that we expect and we are left feeling uneasy if we are left with clashing symbols. 

Jesus reinforces the Biblical understanding of reciprocity. We know that all of society needs this to effectively manage conflict. The secular view of this is to do to others as they do to you. A kind of believe that simply means, "an eye for an eye". A kind of do unto others as they do to you. 

However, Jesus also went deeper as we see more clearly in the New Testament. He was challenged to state which of the 10 Commandments was the greatest. He was often placed in awkward conversations. A form of dissonance. What he responded is a not-so-new idea when He responded that the greatest are the two that is to "Love the Lord your God and to love your neighbor as yourself". This is a not-so-new kind of social politeness.  It is what we call the golden rule. We read elsewhere in the New Testament that we should "do unto others as we would like done to us."  It is a step beyond a kind of social politeness. 

Today, we see how road-rage is likened to the first and basic kind of community. It is a reciprocating of what has been done to us. We call this self-justified vindication. In the Old Testament there were cities of refuge that were places that the accused can go to for a judgement of the crime and punishment. This has developed in Western societies as our court systems and the making of laws. The understanding of "innocent until proven guilty" has always stood the test of time. 

I remember first learning in a high school business ethics class that the symbol of the Lady of Justice stood as a beacon of these ideals. She stands with a scale of justice to represent fair and equality. She also is blindfolded so that her bias is blinded. Today we see challenges to injustice but we need to look to the highest ideal, The Golden Rule. 

In the age of instant justice, by way of social media and live video, we are all becoming self-justified vigilantes. We act self-righteous and act on pure emotion without due process and consideration of the rule of law. 

I caution our society to a not-so-new kind of social politeness. Yes, it take more time and thought. Indeed it means listening. Of course it means pushing for change in healthy and fair ways. Freedom is not self-righteous living, it is taking responsibility for the change that begins at home. In fact, in writing this article I understand that I too may have offer bias persuasion. Yet, I believe that revisiting the Golden Rule can and should help us resolve matters of conflict, if we truly love one another in community. Am I naive? 

Perhaps a bit of a pie in the sky with rose colored glasses but I am certain that as we want for good for ourselves and act in love toward our neighbor, we can get a little closer to the highest ideal of man - to the Glory of God. 

My challenge: Take the next 7-days and live out the not-so-new social politeness. If your wearing a mask helps another to feel more comfortable, why not put it on?  Perhaps, if slowing down to let another pass you on the road prevents road rage, why not slow down? If taking your agenda and inviting others to help contribute can strengthen the outcome, why not listen more intently?