Traveling Together for the Vulnerable!

For the last four years I have spent on average of 4-5 days a week on the road traveling across Indiana. The goal was to meet with pastors and ministry leaders in support of vulnerable children and youth in foster care. The message was simple; to provide prayer and support for children and youth in foster care through the love of God in Christ. 

Certainly, this is what is dearest to God‘s heart! He inclines his ear to the children and youth who have no voice need ours to provide justice in the midst of injustice and fear. The church has an opportunity to make a difference in the lives of our most vulnerable of children and youth who are struggling for services, care, and prayer with many of them in foster care. (See Proverbs 30:8-9.)

It is time for us to do more than just impress others from a distance but to make an impact upon those in-need up-close! Today’s post is one that encourages us, as the church, to be real and involved in the lives of others!

In 2020 alone I traveled over 50,000 miles to meet with Pastors from across Indiana. Many church leaders indicated that they wanted to help but did not know how. The complexities of children in care through court services and social agencies makes doing ministry difficult but it is vital for the church to be involved. Churches are often unaware of the tremendous opportunities we have to partner with members of our community for the sake of those that have no one to advocate for them, children and youth! 

The receptivity of pastors and ministry leaders is refreshing as we consider how much has been on their plate and how many obstacles they have had to overcome in these past couple of years in particular. From life‘s uncertainties, the needs of their own churches and organizations as well as the issues of Covid have made their jobs extraordinary! 

Yet, despite those difficulties, many step forward to offer their assistance and to open their doors to the ministry to the least, the last, and the lost of our communities! There have been hundreds of doors that have opened with opportunities to pray together and to work together. In a real sense, you can say that we have traveled this journey together!

With hundreds of churches signing up to participate in care for kids who are all to often lonely while living just down the road from hope! It is indeed refreshing to know that while we haven’t reached every church throughout Indiana, we have a base of support through prayer and participation that will impact the lives of children and youth for eternity. 

The message we have delivered was one that is both biblical and imperative. I’ve had the opportunity on average to be in over 40 churches during worship services just last year alone! I have looked upon the faces of those who have welcomed many whose hope has been deferred. As Proverbs 13:12 reminds us. “Hope deferred is heart-ache, but a dream fulfilled is the Tree of life.” As we invest in others it will yield eternal rewards. What is done for Christ will last for eternity.

I’ve seen the response from God‘s church. It is that of welcomed desire to be involved and then enthusiasm to offer prayer and resources to help children and youth have their dreams fulfilled.

Memorial at Northern Illinois University

I believe that the church stands ready to mobilize on behalf of our children and youth. I believe this is the last generation if we do not act now! It is a generation who don’t understand the sacrifice of Christ nor do they know God’s plan for their lives. It is of great importance that in a society where seemingly nothing matters, especially truth the children and youth hear from God’s people! 

My heart is stirred for the many youth who are in our public schools that need someone to give them answers. We live in a world that provides no lasting foundation or significant values upon which they can build their lives! Our world seems to provide little by way of definitions that could be helpful midst of any, ever-growing issues of our day! 

I’m refreshed by the opportunity to come alongside those who are stakeholders of our communities to make a difference in the lives of youth throughout our community. We can be deacons of hope in families! We can provide ministry to those who

are alone and vulnerable. We can lift up in prayer the families that are struggling with the shifting winds of confusion, heart-ache, and loneliness. Are youth are in the crosshairs of a society that not only rejects God but offers little by way of values and support.

Similarly, I had a wonderful opportunity and several occasions to serve with the Samaritans Purse as a Chaplain. I was a crisis counselor/Chaplain. What are those occasions was when I was called upon to serve after a mass shooting at Northern Illinois University. They were many that were killed which left the campus vulnerable and many stranded by their emotions and fear!

It was remarkable because everyone that we had a chance to talk with needed to find hope beyond this world. They were grieving but needed to hear of the incredible love that God gives in the midst of the broken world. They were looking for real answers. They were hoping that they could find an explanation but more importantly, and understanding of God‘s love in the midst of heartache and loss.  I had the chance to pray with many and to be voice of encouragement. They were looking for a way forward from the chaos and uncertainty as we cried together, prayed together, and looked for hope from scripture.

There’s much to be done! When we can consider that we have youth that have never been more connected through the Internet, video games, social media technology yet never feeling more alone than they do right now. Happiness and self-esteem are are defined by the number of likes on a social media post, Tik-Tok, or related forms of internet messaging systems.

Our battle for the hearts of our children and youth is a worthy one as we consider the needs and opportunities there are.

So today is one of a calling. I am inviting you to join the efforts as we, journey together on behalf of our youth! We cannot wait because all too quickly the opportunity will pass. 

 

 

In Times of Weakness!

I remember when I was around ten years old and I was confronted by fear in a way I had not experienced before. I grew up in a pretty tough home environment. I always had the protection of an older brothers. In this moment I was on my own. I was confronted by a bully and there was no one there to help me. I discovered something about fear. You can either steal from you or produce steel with-in you. 

I had dealings with this particular bully. It wasn’t the first time in but in this case I was by myself. Previously the bully would just taunted me issuing threats. It was typically in front of others as he was trying to look important in front of others. It seem that I could always reason with him and talk him down through humor mostly. 

Yet, in this moment he confronted me and his threats came with a reality I nearly froze. I didn’t know what to say or do in this latest attack. 

Inside I was afraid. Fear seized me. All I could think about was the fact that I was all alone having to deal with the situation on my own. Today I would call it a fight or flight reaction but left me with few options. Those moments seem to drag out in slow motion.

Perhaps something snapped within me because in a flash a new reality came over me that I cannot explain even to this day. I knew better than to him simply run away because I thought for sure he would see that as a weakness and it would fuel his aggression. But in that moment I stood my ground.

I told him that I did not want to fight him and then I’m certain that we could be friends. I tried my simply negotiation tactics but they fell short. I tried to humor him with a couple of laughs stating that it would be embarrassing if I actually beat him up. It seem to backfire while encouraging him all the more.

I was only left with one option. I would simply stand my ground and hope that it was enough.  Courage seem to take over. I said to him but I was getting tired of his persistent taunting and never taking action. I said, “It’s time to do something or shut up!“ I stepped forward expecting to be met with a fist to my face but instead he stepped back. I again stepped forward and he again stepped back. I knew at that moment that though I was weaker than he was and unlikely to win a fight but he was not ready for a battle. Ironically enough, at that moment it began to rain. Also at that moment, he back down. He said that he was wearing new clothes and that he couldn’t get them wet and then simply turned to head for home.

I tell that story because it applies to what I read in Psalm 8. We find all through scripture how God used our weaknesses. In the Psalm it clearly identifies that God is majestic and powerful. Yet, he chooses to use our weaknesses. There are times in our lives when we feel as though it is too great a battle and we want to run away.

Psalms 8:2 — You have taught children and infants to tell of your strength, silencing your enemies and all who oppose you.

God uses weak vessels to carry his message. Often it is through our weakness that we find strength through Christ. All throughout Scripture we find that God who is infinite and great desires to use us to accomplish his work in this world.

The Lord said to Paul: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9 ESV). In order for Christ’s power to work in us we must be in submission to Him, even when we are weak. When we are weak, we are allowing ourselves to humbly depend on a God who is able to align our will to His. It is an opportunity for us to participate in the divine plans God has for the world. Read more here. 

We read further in Psalm 8 that God is infinitely greater than we are yet he chooses to use mere mortals. Humans are the carry out his work here on earth. God has given us authority over all of his creation. Another words that God has entrusted us in the care in welfare of others. That is clearly amazing!m

Psalms 8:6 — You gave them charge of everything you made, putting all things under their authority. 

Whether we are confronted by temptation or intimidated by others or overwhelmed by life‘s circumstance, God is giving us victory by His Spirit and through our lives. As Christians, we should understand that in our weakness we could be made strong.  God uses the foolish things of this world to shame the proud. 

I love the lyrics to the song by Matthew West. Strong Enough is the title of the song that reminds us that he will carry us through. Though we may not feel strong enough, God will give us what we need. The lyrics speak to our soul of the insecurities we feel. “You must think I’m strong enough to give me what I’m going through.”

When we are confronted by negative situations that are beyond our control or discouragement that seems to overwhelm, we need to look to the Lord because He is the source of our strength. He carries us when there seems to be no way.

Like you, I love sunrise and sunset. I love the majestic beauty of the of the sun reflecting on the horizon and the diverse colors that it produces. It is majestic and awe-inspiring to see those colors reflected in the clouds.

Even though I have seen a thousand sunrises and sunsets, I am always amazed by each one of them.

Psalms 8:3-4 When I look at the night sky and see the work of your fingers — the moon and the stars you set in place— what are mere mortals that you should think about them, human beings that you should care for them?

God chooses to display his glory and his majesty yet GOD desires to work through you and me as we confront wife’s most difficult moments.

One of my favorite passages of scripture is the verse that reads, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.“ (Philippians 4:13)

Matthew West concludes his lyrics of the song Strong Enough to remind us that God is with us and in us when we’re not strong enough.

Again the lyrics from strong enough: 

“When I am weak, I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. And I don’t have to be strong enough.”

We All Have It But Few See It!

Today’s article speaks of a concern that I have, even among Christians. It’s likely that I have certain Blindspot’s that prevent me from seeing this problem with it myself but I am certain that I too have this problem.

We all have it but few see it. You might wonder what I’m talking about yet you won’t be surprised when I actually tell you. Perhaps it’s because I may cynic to human nature but I can see it in others clearly. It’s common to everyone. It can interfere with relationships and it can even get in the way enough to cause problems at work. It can even get in the way enough that we cannot see passed it.

What is it? Why is it such a glaring blindspot? How does it keep getting in the way. It is noticeable but we keep tripping over it.

It is our ego. It is that selfish nature within us. For some it is a protector so we do not get hurt. For others it stems from low self-esteem. Yet for others it may even flow from areas of strength. In a recent article that I published on the subject of pride and humility I speak a little bit related to this similar topic today. Read more here.

I find it everywhere I go. In fact it is a bit of an advantage for me when it is clear. I find that few are those that take the road less traveled but that most trip over it almost every time. I think it is what causes conflict in relationships.

While others may respond out of fear. Many respond out of pride. An article that I published previously gives tactical ideas on the advantages of a healthy degree of personal ego. Many want to make a difference yet few know why. Check out that article here. 

The Scriptures seem to affirm the need for humility. Psalm 84 Reminds us that it is better to be a doorkeeper in the house of the Lord. Proverbs 16:18 encourages us to have humility since pride leads to destruction.

So if we see this issue in others, what should we do about it? For me, I choose the road less traveled with the desire to love and bless others. Most of what I do in my current role could be called sales or public relations. It is a role that allows me to engage in the interpersonal development of relationships or strategic purpose. Typically the cause is a represent as they were the pursuit in my goal is often to match my cause with another persons need or desire to make a difference. 

When I first meet someone I employ several of these tactics to engage a relationship that may earn me the right to talk about my agenda. My agenda being usually the cause of which I represent that is a worthy endeavor.

Every year I ring the bell for the Salvation Army. I use some classic oneliners that help engage the relationship of people or people that I have never met. I have but a few seconds to somehow connect with someone. Often they are patrons on their way to do shopping along my path. The cause is a simple to understand. I want them to give donations to those less fortunate in our community. 

How do I efforts to increase donations for the Salvation Army in those brief seconds of engagement I’m attempting to connect with an individual. Sometimes I will make statements as they enter in order to gain a sense of recognition or even an awareness of my cause. I find it an improvement to donations if people can feel good about themselves and perhaps even see themselves as making a difference. I will often say statements like, “Now don’t spend all your money in there!” Or, “Brother can you spare a dime?“ and to the embarrassment of my children I may even say, “Greetings! Make this a joyous season of giving for everyone!” 

On a more sincere approach I genuinely wish them a “erry Christmas!” And a “God bless you!” I have been known to say to folks, “How might I pray for you?”

Typically, as we become aware of the need of others enables us to build a bridge that increases, what I called the relational collateral in the lives of others. Relational collateral is an investment into the lives of people without expecting anything in return. It is typically a kind smile or a loving expression offered to someone else. It is a natural tendency for people to reciprocate either the action or the kind expression offered.

Society is built on reciprocity. Christians even go beyond a simple exchange we call reciprocation by expressing the golden rule that tells us to do one to others as we would have them do unto us. It’s an extension of a credit without expecting a return on the investment. I believe it is best to porn do people what you desire in return!

As I interact with others I have found out that you could make deposits into the lives of people through kindness and genuine expressions of care. In the book written by Covey, “The Speed of Trust,” you discover how you can build a pond your efforts and gain greater trust from others.

Ego is central to how most of us are. If we’re not acting out of pride and there’s a good chance we are acting out of fear nevertheless it is our ego that often take center stage. As a professional who is working with people, it’s important to elevate the status of someone because of the nature of who many of us are. With that, you can build relational collateral by investing in them through listening, genuine compliments, ND sincerity and appreciation for their role & title.

The next time you are trying to engage in a relationship, it is always good to remember to be a servant first. Learn as much as you can about the individual so that you could identify ways in which you could connect further on areas where they have interest. In developing these tactics always be authentic, positive, and honest. The old adage that is not what you know that really matters but who you come to know. It’s equally true that people will never remember what you say but they will always remember how you made them feel.

Ain’t No Way!

We’ve all been there when we think there just ain’t no way. Sometimes we limit our opportunities because of the barriers and obstacles that stand in the way. Sometimes we even doubt ourselves or our ability to accomplish a goal and objective. Sometimes the price seems too high to pay. Yet, the Bible tells us that there is always a way and we can expect more than we can ever ask, think, or imagine. (Ephesians 3:20)

I’m intrigued by the fact that scripture seems to always point to what is beyond our human capacity. The Bible speaks of optimism and all things positive. We read in scripture that all things are possible through Christ who gives us strength. (Philippians 4:13)

Why is it that we set limits when the Bible says that it is indeed possible?

Perhaps it’s fear. Fear of the unknown or fear of failure that keeps us trapped. Maybe it’s fear of success as well. What if it does succeed after all? We then wonder, what’s next? We ask what will it cost me?

Typically people stop short when God is limitless. We’ve heard the phrase that the sky is the limit but often we set the cap a lot lower than it should be.

The sky is the limit!

In 2 Kings 13 we find that the king came to the prophet complaining and looking for a miracle. The prophet could have made it possible but he put the control of the outcome in the hands of a king. The armies had surrounded gods people in the king needed an answer from God.

The prophet Elisha simply put the answer to the dilemma in the hands of a mere mortal. Often God chooses us, simple human beans to do the extraordinary so that God receives glory. I’m always amazed by the story because it simply illustrates God‘s capacity through human hands.

Elisha simply told the king to shoot the arrow but he did not tell him how many times. He let the king decide that one on his own. Certainly the king should’ve known that to defeat an army he needed to shoot more than what he actually did.

When the king finally realized that he did not shoot with maximum impact, he withdrew from the goal and lost the fight. Prophet gave him every opportunity to succeed but when he shrunk back from the goal, he limited himself.

Sometimes we set limits that God never intended. Whatever the motivation, hopefully God can further develop and help us to see his willingness to grow our faith independence on him, after all, it’s for His glory.

The next time you feel challenged to take a bold step of faith for the Lord, listen to the instruction that is given to the king and apply to your own life. Verse 17 reads, “Elisha proclaimed, ‘This is the LORD’s arrow, an arrow of victory over Aram, for you will completely conquer the Arameans at Aphek.’” The instructions were clear that this was an arrow of victory over the enemy but the king fell short.

Mindset!

The very word mindset is a common understanding in psychological terms today. There are trainings equipped with resources to help develop the mindset. Often it’s a formula or an activity that builds mental motor skills for how to deal with situations that are often beyond our control.

 The mindset principal, according to Kendra Cherry is a set of practices and behaviors.

Your mindset is a set of beliefs that shape how you make sense of the world and yourself. It influences how you think, feel, and behave in any given situation. Kendra Cherry

These techniques and habits enable someone to control their attitude. Attitudes often dictate our actions. Whether internal or external, we would either lash out or self loathe.

All throughout the Scriptures we find these truths weather in principle or proverb. I love reading through Psalm and Proverbs passages because they are filled with mindset principles. Often these expressions are contrasted with two ideas as if to compare one with another.

As you read through the books of wisdom, that include Psalms and Proverbs you’ll find “if - then” statements. The choice of these is fairly obvious as you would likely be able to figure out. It is a contrast of two opposing views with one producing good. The choice is yours to make.

Today’s article is simply a reminder that we should develop the coping skills for life. We find biblical answers to these popular expressions. Centuries have passed but life and it’s series of choices remain constant. Ancient literature and especially the Bible provide a firm foundation of which we can build upon. 

These past few years have stretched each of us. It is caused us to test and challenge our assumptions. We have taken much for granted but now we can apply truth in the midst of confusion. Having the right attitude clearly makes the difference.

Let me challenge you to develop a biblical mindset which can guide your thoughts and actions. It’s important to know truth in the midst of chaos and confusion. Memorizing scripture is a powerful technique when times of testing and trial occur.

Let me also encourage you to remain positive and faith-filled. It is important that we look to God through prayer and belief that God will see us through. Though troubles come, we can know that God will walk with us.

Let me also invite you to let past hurt and disappointment go. Just because something negative has happened to you in the past does not mean it will repeat itself in the future. Sometimes we carry a previous trauma with us causing us to have a false sense of insecurity. It may cause us to have a doubt and fear. We may further drudge up something from the past that has absolutely nothing to do with your present circumstance. 

What is your mindset? John Maxwell simply says that your attitude determines your altitude. You may be afraid to soar because you are afraid of heights (metaphorically) but you must trust God to carry you.

Even though the world may want to hold you back, it doesn’t mean you have to surrender it. Though the barriers are before you does it mean that it’s the end of the road. Though there are limitations it doesn’t mean that you have to respond in limited ways.

I love what the prophet of old says when we read Isaiah 40:31.

But those who trust in the LORD will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

The Scriptures are undeniable and filled with truth which we could build upon. If we would Commit our actions to the Lord we are more likely to succeed. See Proverbs 16:3)

Knowing Why.

I may not have traveled the years of experience that others have yet, there are a few things that I have discovered along the way

One of those is that within all of us is a desire to make a difference. I believe that many desire to help others and  are motivated by a deep or more meaningful experience in life. It seems to be within our nature to help another.

Look for example, the many times that people have stepped up to help others in-need during a national crisis or global tragedy. We all have a desire to be helpful. Look at any organization and you will see that. Organizations experience an increase in volunteerism and donations that are abundant.

Hopefully we can say that growth of philanthropy is up when we reflect upon our global response to the pandemic but, only time will tell. Early in 2020 we did see an increase in financial contributions.

Today I want to explore this a little deeper. It’s a curious thing to me. I often wonder what motivates us to become more philanthropic. Certainly, it appears as though many have the resources to give. We also know that people seem to set aside time to help one another when called upon. I believe that everyone wants to make an impact.

It seems as though helping others is within our DNA. Maybe it’s because at sometime in our past we were in-need and someone helped us. Perhaps we responded with a level of thankfulness. Perhaps it’s because we are much more aware than we have ever been of the incredible need of others. We have sources through social media like never before. Our phone sends us notifications at an unprecedented level. 

Yet, I am curious of the motivation. Perhaps there is a part of God’s design within His creation that motivates us to act. I don’t believe that everyone is motivated by what they get out of it financially or through status. Call me a purist but I believe that people have a genuine desire to make a difference in others.

Some might even call me naïve to believe in the purest intent of humanity. It could be that I am looking at life with rose colored glasses. Of course, I see how selfish we can be as well. Look at how many times people have stocked up on supplies, emptying shelves of toilet paper and other necessities in order to hoard these items for themselves. 

A few years back when the world seem to be concerned about Y2K. (1999) I remember when our Boys Brigade ministry went out to collect our annual food campaign. Within a few weeks of the new year (2000) we scheduled an additional collection thinking that since we survived Y2K, the power systems didn’t crash and Banks did not fail that perhaps there are a few people that have a surplus. That year was a goal-setting year, a bumper crop! We collected more food than we had ever done before and much of it was in bulk supplies. We received canisters and buckets filled with grain & other goods. It was remarkable. So, I’m not that naïve to believe that people do hoard for themselves.

I do believe that people want to make a difference. I believe that Christians know why!

Yet, no matter the motivation or level of philanthropy, I believe that God has instilled this within all of us as a part of his creation. Many use this to promote their status. Perhaps many others use it like a drug; feeling good about themselves.

I do believe that the goodwill of mankind is something that God has instilled within us and it was not lost because of the Fall & disobedience of Adam. Scripture seems to support this idea when I read passages like: Matthew 25 or 2 Corinthians 9 or Luke 10. These passage give direct evidence of our humanity and desire to help others.

Matthew 25:35 I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat. I was thirsty, and you gave me something to drink. I was a stranger, and you took me into your home.

2 Corinthians 9:8 reads; And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.

Luke 10:35 The next day he handed the innkeeper two silver coins, telling him, ‘Take care of this man. If his bill runs higher than this, I’ll pay you the next time I’m here.

Even throughout the Old Testament are passages the talk about having a generous spirit. Consider: Proverbs 11:24–25 or Proverbs 22:9. Read more HERE.

I believe Christians understand why we are generous. Christians have a good understanding, or at least should have an understanding that our goodness is for God’s  glory. We also should understand that no amount of goodness will gain us access into heaven. We must be born again by the spirit of God.

As we gain our understanding of why we do ministry and are charitable, we better communicate the hope that we have through Christ Jesus. It is not for ourselves nor for any kind of personal satisfaction or gain. As Christians, we know why because of our relationship with Christ. All that we do is for gods glory and for the building up of His kingdom here on earth.

We should never let our ego get the best of us or have a false doctrine is if , somehow, it will gain any extra favor from God. We love because God loves us. We give because it has been given to us through Christ Jesus. We, as Christians know why!

2-22-22 Bible Passages for Twos-Day!!

Today I couldn’t help but share with you some of the references of the scripture on this Tuesday filled with “two’s-day” on 2-22-22.

Genesis 2:2

And on the seventh day God finished his work that he had done, and he rested on the seventh day from all his work that he had done.

Psalms 2:2

The kings of the earth set themselves,

and the rulers take counsel together,

against the LORD and against his Anointed, saying….

Psalms 22:22

I will tell of your name to my brothers;

in the midst of the congregation I will praise you:

Proverbs 2:2

making your ear attentive to wisdom

and inclining your heart to understanding;

Jeremiah 22:2

and say, Hear the word of the LORD, O king of Judah, who sits on the throne of David, you, and your servants, and your people who enter these gates.

Mark 2:22

And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the wine will burst the skins—and the wine is destroyed, and so are the skins. But new wine is for fresh wineskins.”

Acts 2:2

And suddenly there came from heaven a sound like a mighty rushing wind, and it filled the entire house where they were sitting.

Acts 2:22

“Men of Israel, hear these words: Jesus of Nazareth, a man attested to you by God with mighty works and wonders and signs that God did through him in your midst, as you yourselves know—

1 Corinthians 2:2

For I decided to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ and him crucified.

Philippians 2:2

complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.

Colossians 2:2

that their hearts may be encouraged, being knit together in love, to reach all the riches of full assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God's mystery, which is Christ,

1 Timothy 2:2

for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way.

2 Timothy 2:22

So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

1 Peter 2:22

He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth.

1 John 2:2

He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world.

Jude 1:22

And have mercy on those who doubt;

Your Biographical Sketch.

Have you ever thought about how you would summarize your life? Each of us perceive our value and worth in our own way. Some focus on relationships while others on task or titles. It’s a rather challenging thing to think about. 

I once was challenged that I should write out my obituary. I don’t like to think about those kinds of things. It is rather morbid! Yet, it can be a tool that could help to discover my purpose and meaning in life. It is most helpful to know your purpose but I like what Mark Twain once wrote. “There are two important day in your life. The day you are born and the day you discover why.”

Albert Schweitzer once wrote a maxim to life that for Christians is of high importance. We need to be people who serve!

"I don't know what know: the ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve. -Albert Schweitzer, 1875

I have attended hundreds of funerals and officiated over the service of many others. As peculiar as it sounds, it is one of my more favorite religious responsibilities. I would much prefer to do a funeral than I would a wedding, though I have actually done hundreds of those. I know that sounds weird!

Well, here it goes, my biographical sketch.

Reverend Rick Carder serves as the Director of Church Outreach for Josiah White’s, a Christian family services ministry headquartered in Wabash, IN. Rick has served in various Christian ministries since 1987, and was ordained by the Wesleyan Church in 1989. Prior to serving with Josiah White’s, Rick served in alumni and church engagement with Indiana Wesleyan University. Rick has also served within the Wesleyan Church in various capacities including as a pastor and youth pastor. Rick is passionate about serving foster parents and foster children. Rick and his wife Cindi were foster parents for eight years, and Rick has served as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) for children in foster care. Rick believes in the life-changing power of the Gospel, and is thankful to be a part of a ministry that offers new possibilities for children and families.  

This biographical sketch was written by the marketing team of Josiah White’s as a tool to help organizations to have a bit of a background whenever I speak to a group.

Ecclesiastes 1:2-3 says that life is vanity; it will quickly pass. In the Voice translation we find a clarity of meaning to these often quote passages.

2 Teacher: Life is fleeting, like a passing mist.
        It is like trying to catch hold of a breath;
    All vanishes like a vapor; everything is a great vanity.
3     What good does it do anyone to work so hard again and again,
        sun up to sundown? All his labor to gain but a little? (The Voice. Ecclesiastes 1:2-3)

It’s a sobering thought to think that all of us have a life expectancy. For many do exceed that number, if there are many tragedies of those who die young. Songs have been created and mini books have been written but help to validate the nature of life.

Yet, the scripture tells us that we should yield our time and attention to the Lord. Each of us are given the same amount of time no matter how long we live. The Bible tells us that we live day by day. While many set calendars months and even years down the road yet, there is no guarantee except the one given to us by our creator.

I say more and more often, “if it be your will”. I believe that it is a healthy expression to consider the fact that our life is in God’s hands. As we walked through life being humble and grateful for each and every day that we are given, may we do our giving while we’re living and invest ourselves into the lives of others; for future generations and not just our own!

First Impressions!

First impressions can be lasting impressions. It's often the first time we meet someone that may impact our beliefs about another; creating distance in the relationship.

I once visited a church that I was asked to preach at. As I arrived early to prepare the man at the entrance said to me, “We were ties in this church!” I obviously didn’t wear a tie with my outfit. I was taking back a bit. Joking I said to him, “You must own the place?” With that I proceeded, not taking a serious offense doesn’t matter. After the service let me in came right up to me, after hearing my message he stated, “Sir, that statement I said to you at the entrance doesn’t pertain to you!”

Talk about leaving the lasting impression, I will never forget that interaction. It’s all too often that negative impressions linger in our lives far too long. It may cause us to add distance to our opportunities!

The patriarchs & prophets of the Bible left initial impressions. As you read the old testament you may get a certain impression about those culture and time we’re very different than our own. In fact, we often place our current culture and expectations over historical times which leaves us with a negative impression. History‘s values must be judged by those times.

One interesting story from the old testament vols man who had leprosy. This man was a mighty warrior but suffered from this horrible illness. A young handmaiden desired that this man would be healed is that word that he should go see a man that had the reputation of healing. Naaman perhaps felt a little slighted from the interaction when the prophet did not come out to meet him in any proper manner. Elijah simply gave instruction for what the man was to do to be healed. The captain of the army was insulted but later was encouraged to follow through with the instructions which resulted in his healing.

Naamam's (Captain of Aram's Army) first impression of Elisha almost cost him a miracle. (2 Kings 5) 

Our first impression of the church could miss out on a blessing. I often tell people that the church will let you down. People in the church are not perfect. That is why we need to keep our eyes on Jesus who is the author and finisher of our faith! While many have an impression of the church and we must represent the church and our Christ well, we cannot give up on the opportunity to receive a blessing. (Read Psalm 122:1)

Indiana has the reputation of being fickle given the weather patterns. Sometimes it is up and other times it is down! We often tell each other about the weather, if you don’t like what you see, just wait, it will change! The beauty all around us is a reminder of God’s blessings! Though it may rain and storms come, we must be reminded to wait upon the Lord because out of the storm come great blessings! 

Have you judged someone too harshly? Who can you get to know more about?

Love

 Happy Valentine’s Day conjures up all kinds of images. Its origin is not necessarily found in the Bible though its actions can, and should originate there. A form of love is found in a physical attraction but it must be deeper than that!

Three

little

words

can

make a world of difference

if spoken correctly. I love you! 

Love can be cheap but true love is true and eternal. In the English language the word love is used to describe everything from pizza to possessions.

Most relationships begin with an attraction, mostly physical. It’s unfortunate that many relationships stay at that level. One of the major reasons for divorce is infidelity. It seems as though the depth, or lack there of, is the cause of many break ups. With the divorce rate well over 60% in our North American culture, it’s no wonder the people hesitate to get married. Yet, not surprisingly mini decide to live together prior to marriage is if it’s some kind of a practice session. Nevertheless, even those relationships that end up married ultimately fail.  Practice does not make perfect in this case.

It is said that love is blind but it makes for lasting relationships. Others may ask, "What do they see in each other?" Many may have doubted. yet, my parents have over 65 years of marriage Having raised 8 children, they demonstrated commitment to family. 

God's LOVE is different. Packed in those four little letters are sacrifice, commitment, patience, and the list goes on. These qualities originate with God!

Understandably valentines day celebrations are reduced to simply an exchange of my needs and wants and not giving that it takes to be successful in marriage. Of course marriage is about uniting our hearts around a simple understanding of an unconditional exchange of commitment that may include physical attraction but deeply meaningful exchange of vows.

Scripture says that hearts are united and become one in purpose, meaningful expressions of true love, as well as a spiritual depth that is demonstrated in scripture. 

God‘s love for is unconditional. God‘s love was demonstrated by sacrifice and commitment. God‘s love is a free gift. What gods love is transformational as well. It changes our heart from just being selfish and needy to giving! 

1 John provides evidence of what true love is. First Corinthians 13 teaches us the very definition of authentic love. Ephesians 5 teachers us the depths of our commitment to love one another.

Scripture tells us that perfect love cast out fear.  Through the  scripture we also understand what true love does. It tells us not to act on selfish motivations. Scripture teaches us what a healthy marriage can be. In God‘s love letter to us, the Bible we can discover eternal values that promote lasting love through biblical truth.

Can you hear God say, "I love you"? What are you willing to give up to show true and lasting love?

Bleak!

 

GOOD WORDS . . . 

The forecast may seem bleak; after all, it is winter in Indiana. Cloudy with a chance of snow…. Most don’t realize it but an optimist would remind us that above the clouds it is always sunny!

From a spiritual standpoint, we all should be optimist. We should see the Hope that we have in Christ.

It is always a matter of perspective that changes our mood and transforms our gloom to glee. In Christ, we can be warmed by the ray of light that come from the SON. 

Habakkuk 3:4 tells us that God is filled with rays of light. 

I have heard all about you, LORD. I am filled with awe by your amazing works. In this time of our deep need, help us again as you did in years gone by. And in your anger, remember your mercy.

 What do you see when you look outside today? What do you feel when you look to Jesus?

Restoring Relationships through Christ: Reciprocity Matters.

Today we need to discover what it means to become new in Christ and the wonderful impact it has in us, our humanity, and our community!

 For a recording of this blog go to: “Restoring Relationships through Christ: Reciprocity Matters.” (Agents of Grace) on Podbean, check it out!
https://www.podbean.com/ei/pb-dvxq6-119cc32

Read 2 Corinthians 5:16-21 (NLT): 

“So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view. At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. “

The old life is gone; a new life has begun! And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. 

And God has given us this task of reconciling people to him. For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. 

And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation. So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” 

For God made Christ, who never sinned, to be the offering for our sin, so that we could be made right with God through Christ.

“Forgiveness may be one-sided. But reconciliation requires both parties to be willing to participate in restoring the relationship.” - Reference

1.  RE-Created in Christ - God’s Gift to us!

We are saved for a purpose! Redeemed to reconcile the world in Christ! 

The OLD life is gone and a NEW life has begun! 

We are RE-created in Christ.

—- this new life is filled with eternal values and we live by different principles!

It is the result of a gift to us! 

—- this grace given to us makes us agents of grace … like the spreading of a cure for Illness.

Once we understand this grace (free gift) we are motivated to a purpose! 

In Christian terms, grace can be generally defined as “God’s favor toward the unworthy” or “God’s benevolence on the undeserving.” In His grace, God is willing to forgive us and bless us, despite the fact that we fall short of living righteously. Reference

Grace is the opposite of karma, which is all about getting what you deserve. Grace is getting what you don’t deserve. — Justin Holcomb

The word “reconciliation” is less commonly used. And generally, at least in the Scripture, it deals with the relationship between God and humanity. Reconciliation is the Greek word katallagē, meaning “an exchange; reconciliation, restoration to favor.” (Ed Jarrett, CT.com)

This gift to us means that we are motivated to be Agents of Grace!

2. Generosity - Our Response to God’s Gift! 

I love the song of grace: “Grace, Grace - God’s Grace! Grace that will pardon and cleanse within!”

How do we respond to that which was given to us by GOD, in Christ? 

We cannot reciprocate in exact change? It is not apples to apples. 

Our knowing of God’s grace makes us new! We are no longer “transactional” in our response. 

Have you experienced someone’s gift to you and think, how can I repay you? 

• Roadside service (unexpected generosity.)
• Maybe it is like receiving something of value that cannot be simply paid back? 
• Perhaps it is receiving good news when you expected nothing but bad news!! 

As we receive and understand the depths of grace we enter into a deeper way of life — We are transformed!! 

We see life as transformational not transactional. 

** We give because we have been given! ** 

Jesus Calling devotional: 

I AM WITH YOU AND FOR YOU. You face nothing alone--nothing! When you feel anxious, know that you are focusing on the visible world and leaving Me out of the picture. 

The remedy is simple: Fix your eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. Verbalize your trust in Me, the Living One who sees you always. I will get you safely through this day and all your days.

But you can find Me only in the present. 

Each day is a precious gift from My Father. 

How ridiculous to grasp for future gifts when today's is set before you! Receive today's gift gratefully, unwrapping it tenderly and delving into its depths. As you savor this gift, you find Me.

3. Reciprocity - Our gift to others! (Ambassadors of Reconciliation.)

I like to think of reconciliation as reciprocity. It is the act of generosity that is received and then acted upon toward someone else! 

Reciprocity is universal and at the core of civilization! Every culture needs it to survive. 

It goes beyond a fair exchange! 

For Christians: It is defined as the Golden Rule::

My friend, Malcolm Evans (died March 2021) was a businessman that wrote a book on business ethics: Leading Business by the Book.

Family members gathered and reflected stating: (He was) A dedicated family man, businessman, and philanthropist, Malcolm would often say, "You can't outgive God", and lived his life as a testament to this truth found in the scriptures (Malachi 3:8-12).

Quote from Malcolm’s book: 

Whatever city or country you do business in, you'll find a parallel of the Golden Rule- often known as

"the ethic of reciprocity." 

…However, you'll discover that many of these are phrased in the negative sense. 

When Jesus presented the Golden Rule, he presented it in a positive fashion.You see, it's one thing to say, “Don't do to others what you don't want done to you." But it's quite another to follow Christ's words, "Do to others as you would have them do to you" (Luke 6:31).

Confucius said, "Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you" (Analects 15:23). 

The Hindus teach, "This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you" (Mahabharata 5:1517). 

Other religions seem to reflect Christ's positive view in concept

but not in practice. For example, Islam teaches: “None of you [truly]

believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself" (Number 13 of Imam Al-Nawawi's Forty Hadiths). *

Christianity goes beyond simply a reply …. We call it being a blessing!

The law of blessing says that we will always reap what we have sow. This is, in part RECIPROCITY!

The way to develop RECIPROCITY is through GENEROSITY!  

Let me illustrate this from Malachi’s perspective: 

Malachi 3:11-12 (We find an IF-THEN principle …. Test GOD in our generosity! 

“Your crops will be abundant, for I will guard them from insects and disease. Your grapes will not fall from the vine before they are ripe,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies. “Then all nations will call you blessed, for your land will be such a delight,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.”

—-

As agents of grace we can bless others because of what GOD did on our behalf! 

We are called to live out the Law of Blessing:

Maybe it is a waitress.

Perhaps it is being courteous to others and even to the cashier.

It is going the extra mile in our generosity!

As you do unto the least of those among you! It is doing for someone who cannot reciprocate in the same way! Yet, it is like giving the gift of “treating them as God’s creation!”

— We are called to be Agents of Grace!

— We are called to the ministry of reconciliation! 

On 2/2/2022 reports tells us that Winter will continue for 6-weeks according to Punxsutawney Phil

He has made his 2022 Groundhog Day prediction: winter is here to stay! 

The furry rodent saw his shadow Wednesday morning in Punxsutawney, Pa., therefore predicting six more weeks of winter.

Perhaps you took those couple of days off due to the snowstorm that we just had and watched a few new movies like Groundhogs Day.

Groundhog Day is a 1993 American fantasy comedy film directed by Harold Ramis and written by Ramis and Danny Rubin. It stars Bill Murray, Andie MacDowell and Chris Elliott. Murray portrays Phil Connors, a cynical television weatherman covering the annual Groundhog Day event in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, who becomes trapped in a time loop, forcing him to relive February 2nd repeatedly. 

“It is only when Phil stops using the loops to indulge his own desires and instead uses them to selflessly help others that he is freed.[11] In repeatedly failing to save the old homeless man, Phil is also forced to accept that he is not a god.[134] Similarly, regardless of how much knowledge he gains about Rita, and despite his accomplishments learned throughout the loops, he is unable to impress her enough to earn her love. He wins her over only once he stops trying to do so, when he demonstrates genuine care for helping others without fakery or self-interest, knowing that the day will likely reset and it will have all been for naught. Only then does Rita return his affections.[10][11][129] 

The aspects of Rita that Phil mocked at the start of the film have become qualities he admires and respects, and in turn, Phil receives Rita's love not because he desires it, but because he has genuinely become the type of person that Rita could love.”

I love what can summarized this topic by Ed Jarrett of CT.com — 

He writes: “Reconciliation involves forgiveness. But it goes beyond forgiveness. When I forgive someone, there is no guarantee that we will have a restored relationship. It may well be that even after I have forgiven someone that we remain estranged. Reconciliation, however, restores the relationship.

Forgiveness may be one-sided. But reconciliation requires both parties to be willing to participate in restoring the relationship. It is always possible, and expected, for me to forgive. 

But reconciliation will not be possible if the other party is not willing to participate.

Yet, as we receive God’s Grace, we become people of Generosity (a response to God’s love that transformed us) — And we then can bless others (even if they don’t reciprocate) because it points to the same hope of transformation that GOD offers!

For a recording of the message go to: “Restoring Relationships through Christ: Reciprocity Matters.” (Agents of Grace) on Podbean, check it out!

https://www.podbean.com/ei/pb-dvxq6-119cc32