Just a thought: Evangelism today is judged by relational values. Most people today look harshly at the church if it fails to include relational dynamics. Postmodernism says that if the message is not relevant, the message is worthless. It is postmodern thinkers that tell us the authenticity and respect are key values today.
One thing that postmodernism tells us is that if we are going to be effective we must be willing to invest time and energy into relationships that matter. People do not just want to hear about truth, they want to experience it (on their terms). This generation is more preoccupied with the way things are done not the things themselves.
Knowing this means that we must not decide an either - or, but rather a both - and! If we are going to effectively reach people with the life-changing message of Christ, we must get up-close and personal.
A friend of mine used to always say, "You IMPRESS people from a distance but you IMPACT them up close." This is a great motto for the church today. Let's make a difference by being willing to get up close.
Just a thought!
Saturday, March 08, 2008
What does the church need to learn?
Isn't it amazing that the evangelical church has made such a profound impact on culture? Many of the great social impacts that the church has made include hospitals, medical clinics, youth programs, intercity missions, homeless shelters, counseling care centers and many philanthropic advances (to name a few) are attributed to the Christian faith. The evangelical church has contributed greatly over the past century alone!
In modern times, the church can not rest on it accomplishments. The church must learn! It must learn to reach our world in ways that demonstrate compassion and care. It must learn how to adapt it's ministry to meet the needs of people today. The church must adapt without compromising it's mission.
Today's blog centers on what the church must learn? As I write this blog today I sit at a Panera Bread in Coral Springs, Florida. The sites and sounds of people here impress me that the church must learn to adapt to the culture, language, experience of people within just a ten-foot reach of my computer. The church, particularly the evangelical church, must recognize the importance of keeping the message of Christ's love and hope of salvation relevant to the needs of people.
Today we live in a vastly diverse community. At this Panera Bread there are people from the Mexico, Caribbeans, Cuba, Porto Rico and nearly every region of North America. They come with many different backgrounds. What a mission field! But, how is the church to relate to this vastly diverse people group?
Perhaps I am simplistic but the answer seems to be in the way the church interacts with the culture we live in without changing the message of Christ. As I observe Panera Bread, it offers a market-researched product that connects with customers. They offer the same menu with a slight seasonal variation. They provide a positive impression and friendly service. They care about the needs of people (at least in the food and coffee department). Panera Bread may hold one key to effective Church ministry. It is consistency with it's franchises and products while exhibiting positive service. I have been to as many as ninety different Panera Bread stores in my travels and they are all very similar!
What of the church? How consist ant is the message from the Church? How consistent is the service? Like any McDonald's chain, the products, service and care is the same at every single McDonald's.
I am not suggesting that every church offer a coffee shop. But what may be a solution is that the church offer one consistent theme like "Service with a smile!" Yes, the church experience is unique and every denomination has it's focus but what if every Christian simple say, "How may I help you?" and follow through with "Thank you. Do you have any suggestions on how to improve our service?" The message of God's Love and Hope of Salvation in Christ remains the thread that weaves God's Word but it is mastered by the "Golden Rule" of treating your neighbor as you would yourself.
I read a book recently called "The Starbucks Experience" and it has forced me to think about how I treat others. While secular in nature it does impress on me the importance of Christ-likeness! Consider this: If every Christian were as nice to people at Church as the employees of great eating Establishments like Panera Bread or you name it, this would completely change the perception of Christians. Think about it!
In modern times, the church can not rest on it accomplishments. The church must learn! It must learn to reach our world in ways that demonstrate compassion and care. It must learn how to adapt it's ministry to meet the needs of people today. The church must adapt without compromising it's mission.
Today's blog centers on what the church must learn? As I write this blog today I sit at a Panera Bread in Coral Springs, Florida. The sites and sounds of people here impress me that the church must learn to adapt to the culture, language, experience of people within just a ten-foot reach of my computer. The church, particularly the evangelical church, must recognize the importance of keeping the message of Christ's love and hope of salvation relevant to the needs of people.
Today we live in a vastly diverse community. At this Panera Bread there are people from the Mexico, Caribbeans, Cuba, Porto Rico and nearly every region of North America. They come with many different backgrounds. What a mission field! But, how is the church to relate to this vastly diverse people group?
Perhaps I am simplistic but the answer seems to be in the way the church interacts with the culture we live in without changing the message of Christ. As I observe Panera Bread, it offers a market-researched product that connects with customers. They offer the same menu with a slight seasonal variation. They provide a positive impression and friendly service. They care about the needs of people (at least in the food and coffee department). Panera Bread may hold one key to effective Church ministry. It is consistency with it's franchises and products while exhibiting positive service. I have been to as many as ninety different Panera Bread stores in my travels and they are all very similar!
What of the church? How consist ant is the message from the Church? How consistent is the service? Like any McDonald's chain, the products, service and care is the same at every single McDonald's.
I am not suggesting that every church offer a coffee shop. But what may be a solution is that the church offer one consistent theme like "Service with a smile!" Yes, the church experience is unique and every denomination has it's focus but what if every Christian simple say, "How may I help you?" and follow through with "Thank you. Do you have any suggestions on how to improve our service?" The message of God's Love and Hope of Salvation in Christ remains the thread that weaves God's Word but it is mastered by the "Golden Rule" of treating your neighbor as you would yourself.
I read a book recently called "The Starbucks Experience" and it has forced me to think about how I treat others. While secular in nature it does impress on me the importance of Christ-likeness! Consider this: If every Christian were as nice to people at Church as the employees of great eating Establishments like Panera Bread or you name it, this would completely change the perception of Christians. Think about it!
Sunday, March 02, 2008
A FOOTNOTE TO NIU
It occurred to me the other day that I did not clearly explain how and why I decided to volunteer as a chaplain at NIU. Several observations may help explain my motivation and opportunity.
When I got the call to volunteer with the Rapid Response Team (RRT) I couldn't help but say, "YES, I will be there!" Just days prior to NIU's tragic shooting a series of severe storms and tornadoes impacted the lived of many in the Jackson, Tennessee area (and throughout the state). Instantly the nation was told of the tragic death of over fifty people. In nearly the same heartbreaking news story came stories of incredible triumph. At Union University (UU), heavily damaged by the storm, the student body shared words of hope. The students of UU shared the message of God's Love! My heart, like yours, was instantly engaged!
The relief efforts were great. Many came together from across the Christian College network. Even Indiana Wesleyan University (IWU) responded with financial gifts and the students of IWU provided additional assistance. I felt the sudden urge to response as well by going. Well, this opportunity did not work out. But, when I heard about the opportunity at NIU, I jumped at the chance to assist.
Isn't it interesting how God directs our steps. With the permission of IWU, I spent the weekend at NIU. What a wonderful experience! Not only did God use our team but he ministered to our team as well. It was a joy to fellowship, pray with and work with the RRT.
Why did I go? Well, quite frankly I felt the Lord's prompting, He worked out the details and as evidenced by the response of NIU, we were used by the Lord to care for and pray with those impacted.
Perhaps part of my rationale also has to do with the connection I have to a University. What would IWU do if faced with similar circumstance? We can only pray that our students, administrators and faculty maintain close, personal connections with those in our programs of education. We can only hope that we too can be a witness, like UU, of God's provision and love.
Lessons learned? Just one. IWU, like other colleges and universities, must remain personal, caring and willing to take the time to listen to the needs of each other. We must be willing to provide care and prayer for anyone hurting throughout our community!
When I got the call to volunteer with the Rapid Response Team (RRT) I couldn't help but say, "YES, I will be there!" Just days prior to NIU's tragic shooting a series of severe storms and tornadoes impacted the lived of many in the Jackson, Tennessee area (and throughout the state). Instantly the nation was told of the tragic death of over fifty people. In nearly the same heartbreaking news story came stories of incredible triumph. At Union University (UU), heavily damaged by the storm, the student body shared words of hope. The students of UU shared the message of God's Love! My heart, like yours, was instantly engaged!
The relief efforts were great. Many came together from across the Christian College network. Even Indiana Wesleyan University (IWU) responded with financial gifts and the students of IWU provided additional assistance. I felt the sudden urge to response as well by going. Well, this opportunity did not work out. But, when I heard about the opportunity at NIU, I jumped at the chance to assist.
Isn't it interesting how God directs our steps. With the permission of IWU, I spent the weekend at NIU. What a wonderful experience! Not only did God use our team but he ministered to our team as well. It was a joy to fellowship, pray with and work with the RRT.
Why did I go? Well, quite frankly I felt the Lord's prompting, He worked out the details and as evidenced by the response of NIU, we were used by the Lord to care for and pray with those impacted.
Perhaps part of my rationale also has to do with the connection I have to a University. What would IWU do if faced with similar circumstance? We can only pray that our students, administrators and faculty maintain close, personal connections with those in our programs of education. We can only hope that we too can be a witness, like UU, of God's provision and love.
Lessons learned? Just one. IWU, like other colleges and universities, must remain personal, caring and willing to take the time to listen to the needs of each other. We must be willing to provide care and prayer for anyone hurting throughout our community!
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Prayer Evangelism - a welcomed message
Ever wonder why people don't listen when you want to talk about Jesus? It seems that many Christians complain that our society is just not listening to the claims of Christ.
Let me share with you a story that may actually change your perspective of evangelism.
While at NIU, the Rapid Response Team (of which I was a part of) had the awesome opportunity to share the Love of Jesus with many. In fact, MOST! Many that we interacted with on the campus of NIU received us positively. As our team mingled with students and alumni at the memorials, dorms, student center, and dining areas, we were surprised and excited at the positive response from people.
Is evangelism tough? NO! If people are careful to listen and demonstrate an open spirit, sharing hope in Christ is usually respected if not accepted. The claims of Christ must be presented in loving terms, not judgemental and harsh accusatory. Beyond this, if we offer to pray for and pray with people, our attitude will convey a positive message. Chances are, your offer to pray will encourage positive interaction.
I suggest we offer "prayer evangelism!" By presenting caring terms and careful to listen (even through asking thoughtful questions) you will usually get farther. Relational objectives will befriend evangelism efforts....just a thought!
Let me share with you a story that may actually change your perspective of evangelism.
While at NIU, the Rapid Response Team (of which I was a part of) had the awesome opportunity to share the Love of Jesus with many. In fact, MOST! Many that we interacted with on the campus of NIU received us positively. As our team mingled with students and alumni at the memorials, dorms, student center, and dining areas, we were surprised and excited at the positive response from people.
Is evangelism tough? NO! If people are careful to listen and demonstrate an open spirit, sharing hope in Christ is usually respected if not accepted. The claims of Christ must be presented in loving terms, not judgemental and harsh accusatory. Beyond this, if we offer to pray for and pray with people, our attitude will convey a positive message. Chances are, your offer to pray will encourage positive interaction.
I suggest we offer "prayer evangelism!" By presenting caring terms and careful to listen (even through asking thoughtful questions) you will usually get farther. Relational objectives will befriend evangelism efforts....just a thought!
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Only at Disney!
I just had to post this. While traveling to Orlando, Florida I spotted this vehicle. WOW! What a spectacle! This car must have over a thousand Disney toys glued to it. All I can say is that it takes all kinds.
Perhaps the lesson learned is that no matter what you might encounter in life, don't take life too serious. There is always someone stranger than you!
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Monday, February 25, 2008
My experience at NIU - Compass Chaplain Services, NFP
Dear Friends;
I wanted to let you know about my recent volunteer efforts at NIU (Northern Illinois University). I served the weekend as a volunteer with the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association as a Rapid Response Team Chaplain at NIU. I have recorded some of the efforts and opportunities we had. To view my blog: www.rickcarder.blogspot.com
I was able to take the weekend and help promote hope and the love of Christ to students at NIU. As you already know, I work at Indiana Wesleyan University as the Alumni Relations Director for the College of Arts and Sciences.
I plan to make several ministry trips throughout the year. I usually am deployed through the Rapid Response Team with the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association. However, other opportunities that come my way include training and leadership in the community and church ministries.
Thank you for your friendship!
Just a reminder; contributions to Compass Chaplain Services, NFP are tax deductible. Your support is appreciated. Your financial gifts help defray my personal expenses.
Rev. Rick Carder
Compass Chaplain Services, NFP
President and Volunteer
9543 E 300 N
Van Buren, IN 46991
Monday Morning
This morning our team gathered for debriefing and sharing what God has been able to do. Many stories were shared about how we were able to prayer for and share with NIU student, alumni and community people. It is amazing what God is able to do!
Damien shared about the opportunities he had to speak with officers and social workers.
Mindy shared about being able to speak with anxious parents. She also was able to speak with several foreign exchange students. It was so impressive to see Mindy hug and comfort so many.
Some gathered at the Recreation Center. They were able to provide ministry to faculty affected by this tragedy.
Dennis shared with over a dozen and prayed for them, bringing them comfort and hope.
God can truely bring peace in the midst of broken pieces! At NIU, it is clear that God can provide help in times of trouble.
As I was checking out of my room I had the opportunity to speak with Dundra, an Indian student. He shared that he was a Hindu but very impressed with the many Christian chaplains. I explained the difference in religions and that because of Christ, salvation is a free gift. I shared that we can have the assurance of eternal life. While he did let me prayer for him, he said he was not sure about the claims of Christ. I left him with a "The Life of Christ" booklet by Billy Graham.
I also had a last minute exchange with Andrew while he waited for the bus. He shared the anxiety he felt. He said, "You never think that going to school could be so unsafe." I told him that God has a plan for our lives. I prayed for him and left him with literature. I also told him that according to Jeremiah that "God knows the plans he has for us. Plans for hope and a furture..." Pray for Andrew so that he may come to a personal relationship with Christ.
Damien shared about the opportunities he had to speak with officers and social workers.
Mindy shared about being able to speak with anxious parents. She also was able to speak with several foreign exchange students. It was so impressive to see Mindy hug and comfort so many.
Some gathered at the Recreation Center. They were able to provide ministry to faculty affected by this tragedy.
Dennis shared with over a dozen and prayed for them, bringing them comfort and hope.
God can truely bring peace in the midst of broken pieces! At NIU, it is clear that God can provide help in times of trouble.
As I was checking out of my room I had the opportunity to speak with Dundra, an Indian student. He shared that he was a Hindu but very impressed with the many Christian chaplains. I explained the difference in religions and that because of Christ, salvation is a free gift. I shared that we can have the assurance of eternal life. While he did let me prayer for him, he said he was not sure about the claims of Christ. I left him with a "The Life of Christ" booklet by Billy Graham.
I also had a last minute exchange with Andrew while he waited for the bus. He shared the anxiety he felt. He said, "You never think that going to school could be so unsafe." I told him that God has a plan for our lives. I prayed for him and left him with literature. I also told him that according to Jeremiah that "God knows the plans he has for us. Plans for hope and a furture..." Pray for Andrew so that he may come to a personal relationship with Christ.
Convocation at NIU
Dr. Peters opened the Convocation by encouraging the students, parents, alumni and community. "We will not let this tragedy define us." he said. Northern Illinois University gathered in several campus buildings, sum 30,ooo expected. I gathered with a few Rapid Response Team Chaplains at the Alumni/Visitors Center. Nearly 500 others gathered to hear a variety of University leaders and government officials speak words of hope while memorializing the lives of those lost. Many expressed emotions and gentle hugs.
During this convocation gathering were several opportunities to share God's love and prayer for those hurting. Jackie is a student who approved us for prayer. She spoke of shock and personal sadness. She told us about another friend who committed suicide just a few days prior. We told her of God's love and provision. We shared the plan of salvation and left her with literature. We had a memorable exchange in prayer that seemed to really encourage her.
On Monday and Tuesday over 600 mental health specialist will gather with students in their classrooms and dorms. During the Convocation gathering we were able to speak with quite a few of these counselors.
During this convocation gathering were several opportunities to share God's love and prayer for those hurting. Jackie is a student who approved us for prayer. She spoke of shock and personal sadness. She told us about another friend who committed suicide just a few days prior. We told her of God's love and provision. We shared the plan of salvation and left her with literature. We had a memorable exchange in prayer that seemed to really encourage her.
On Monday and Tuesday over 600 mental health specialist will gather with students in their classrooms and dorms. During the Convocation gathering we were able to speak with quite a few of these counselors.
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Saturday, February 23, 2008
Tragedy and God's Message of Hope
As part of the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, I have been deployed with the Rapid Response Team. The team of Chaplains from all over the country have been invited to participate in providing ministry and care-giving to the students, parents and alumni of Northern Illinois University. My role here will be from February 23-26, 2008.
Already we have seen several powerful example of hope and profound ministry. As the students return to campus there are many fearful and emotional reactions. All across the campus there are memorials filled with messages, candles and flowers. Over the next several days I will be posting short updates of the ministry impact we are seeing as we mingle and speak to people.
Today I met and spoke with Charles Rex Arbogast. He is an AP photographer. His images (one above) reveals the incredible impact this tragedy has had. Charles is a believer in Christ. He has been with the AP for over 20 years. A surprise to me but he has grown up in The Nazarene Church. See related link:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/02/15/AR2008021500270_2.html
(Cut and paste link)
I also had the awesome opportunity to pray with and share the hope we have in Christ with many. Students like Danielle and alumni like Melissa have felt the incredible grief and hurt as a result of this tragedy. I have cried with and hugged several as they stood, almost numb, in front of the memorials.
There will be a Convocation service (simulcast) all across campus on Sunday evening. Several of us will be deployed in various locations. We hope to demonstrate Christ's love and comfort during this difficult time as they return to campus.
Please pray for those impacted by such a terrible tragedy.
More to come.
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Courage of Faith - When Tragedy Strikes
Today the Associated Press published an inspiring article about the courage and faith of LaFayette, Tenn. When Macon County faced devastating tornados. One think that stuck me most was the report of a Church (LaFayette United Methodist Church) that immediately developed ministry and made a difference for Christ. The report told how community volunteers mobilized and provided aid to those in need. One volunteer, Karen spoke of her faith. "Long said her faith - now more than ever - allowed her to help other."
Her courage, like so many others, was used to meet the needs of those hurting most. Their faith has pointed out the incredible impact Christ can have. Even through crisis, Christ can make a profound difference.
Another volunter and disaster center leader commented, "'They say there are no athiest in fox holes,' Griffin said. 'There is a deep desire to know God. And when tragedy strikes or adversity comes our way, those desires are brought to the forefront - whether we want them or not.'"
For us left unimpacted by this devastation what we can do is very important. We can pray and offer our resources for those impacted. This we can do!
Her courage, like so many others, was used to meet the needs of those hurting most. Their faith has pointed out the incredible impact Christ can have. Even through crisis, Christ can make a profound difference.
Another volunter and disaster center leader commented, "'They say there are no athiest in fox holes,' Griffin said. 'There is a deep desire to know God. And when tragedy strikes or adversity comes our way, those desires are brought to the forefront - whether we want them or not.'"
For us left unimpacted by this devastation what we can do is very important. We can pray and offer our resources for those impacted. This we can do!
Saturday, February 09, 2008
I am back at it!
Compass Chaplain Services, NFP web applications and blog is back! After
months of inactivity, I have decided to become active once again in blog
writings and ministry.
months of inactivity, I have decided to become active once again in blog
writings and ministry.
The tragedy of the tornado has devastated the lives of many in
Tennessee.
News reports have been provided: "President George W. Bush toured
tornado-battered parts of the U.S. South on Friday and pledged to help
the region rebuild after the worst rampage of twisters in nearly a
quarter-century killed 58 people."
http://www.reuters.com/article/americasCrisis/idUSN08493562
These news reports have made many of us feel empathy for the many
impacted by this tragedy.
Compass Chaplain Services, NFP wishes to help communicate the importance
of reaching people in need for Christ. "Discovering Christ in Crisis" is
our motto. For twenty years, I have served the needs of people dealing
with crisis. Over tree years ago I developed the web site,
www.compassdriven.com to help explore the vision and ministry to those
in crisis.
After registering as a Chaplain and participating with Rapid Response
Team through the Billy Graham Association (and participating with
Hurricane Katrina ministry in Biloxi, MS) I was on my way to a ministry
of presence in Jesus name. Wow! What a wonderful experience.
I wrote in 2005:
People are responding to crisis every day! It is estimated that someone
is faced with a major crisis every 50 seconds in which they will require
emergency assistance. (Source: Crisis Care Network, Inc)
This is why Compass Ministries is so vital. People need to turn to
someone they can trust in help them through crisis. Partnering with
local law enforcement and emergency response teams, Compass Ministries
serves by providing Crisis Care Management and Stress Debriefing for
first responders as well as the general community citizens. By serving
as a Police Chaplain, Compass Ministries helps to bring emotional
"First-Aid" to victims as well as emergency responders. Compass
Ministries serves as a bridge to the community as a network of qualified
counselors, agencies, organizations and professionals.
Stay tuned!
Rev. Rick E. Carder '87 (B.S.) '03 (M.A.)
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
The Crisis of Defining What Christmas Means.
Happy Holidays. Seasons Greetings. Happy Hanukkah. Happy Kw
What has happened to us that we have so secularized and commercialized this time of year that Santa Claus is more important than Christ in the Manger?
Employee parties are now called Seasonal Events.
Christmas is having an identity crisis. The real reason for our celebration is lost. We have become trapped in a land of the abyss! Now, I am not a Grinch or scrooge. I enjoy the fun in Santa and the heritage of Hanukkah. These traditions at least embrace a godly and biblical value of giving and goodwill.
The problem is that the definition of Christ in
A side from the reality that the Inn Keeper rejected our Savior, his business made no previsions for the poor or someone in crisis. Shame on this busy business owner! The least what he could have done was let them rest near his the fire.
Perhaps the real Grinch this Christmas are those, like the Inn Keeper, who have relished the materialistic commerce and profit and squeezed out anything of charity and goodwill! What has happened that the real meaning of Christ’s birth announcing His gift to the world has been re-defined? This year, even though the merchants don’t say “MERRY CHRISTMAS” I hope that I am willing to announce the good news of Christ’s birth to all. Just because my boss refuses to acknowledge the Reason for the Season, may I bring goodwill to all! Even though there was no room for Christ’s birth at the
Monday, December 18, 2006
12 DAYS OF CHRISTMAS: A NEW LOOK AT AN OLD CHRISTMAS CAROL!
Today is not the First Day of Christmas but some interest thoughts occurred to me as I reflect upon this familiar Christmas jingle. (See: http://www.crivoice.org/cy12days.html // Quote from this web site: “Contrary to much popular belief, these are not the twelve days before Christmas, but in most of the Western Church are the twelve days from Christmas until the beginning of Epiphany (January 6th; the 12 days count from December 25th until January 5th). In some traditions, the first day of Christmas begins on the evening of December 25th but the following day is considered the First Day of Christmas (December 26th).”)
The history of this jingle goes back to a time when Christians celebrated Christmas in secret due to the religious conflict in their society, war, and the persecution of Christians. The odd gifts were coded messages of the real meaning of Christmas. (Quote from web site: “The popular song "The Twelve Days of Christmas" is usually seen as simply a nonsense song for children. However, some have suggested that it is a song of Christian instruction dating to the 16th century religious wars in
A side from spiritual, here are a few interpretive ideas from the 12 Days of Christmas song.
Firsts are always the most exciting. The first day of Christmas gift is a partridge in a pear tree. What a first gift! The receiving of this gift is certainly a metaphor of Christ’s birth*. Remember your first date? Remember your first kiss? Remember the first time you drove a car? Many first are remembered best. This first gift must have been hard to top. Never the less, it is being first that sets it a part from the other gifts.
(*From the web site: Quote: “The partridge in a pear tree is Jesus the Christ, the Son of God, whose birthday we celebrate on December 25, the first day of Christmas. In the song, Christ is symbolically presented as a mother partridge that feigns injury to decoy predators from her helpless nestlings, recalling the expression of Christ's sadness over the fate of
Secondly, I have a question. What did "my true love" ever do with all of those strange gifts? What would you do with them? It gives new meaning to public storage! This series of gifts, like so many gifts today, are stored and neglected. Over time, they make great garage sale items. Perhaps what makes these 12 Days of Christmas gifts worth while is the sentimental value placed upon them of the understanding of their spiritual metaphoric significance. It is very hard to “throw away” those sentimental items, isn’t it?
Third, how would the giver of such gifts ever top these gifts next Christmas? You've done it too. You have given gifts that you wonder, how can I top that one? The gift is so extravagant or such a perfect fit, you will have a hard time doing better next year.
Well, you wonder, what's the point? My silly ramblings do have a point. That being said, here are three principles to consider when looking for a gift.
Never give your best gift first unless you intent to give gifts the eleven other days of Christmas. Perhaps the 12 Days of Christmas followed by eleven other days because he had to top day one, day two and so on!
Never give a gift that has the potential of becoming someone's "white elephant" gift exchange or garage sale item next year.
Never out-give yourself. Don't give a gift that you can not improve upon. It must have been hard for the giver of the 12 Days gifts to top these gifts.
Perhaps the best advice I offer is to make the gift practical. Think for a moment if you would use it? If so, go ahead and give it. Another word of advice for those who are thinking about someone in the family; you should give something that you can share or do together like dinner of a game you can share together later. The most practical gift of the 12 days of Christmas is perhaps the “eight maids a milking.” Something to eat is perhaps the best gift!
One more idea is to make something not just something you buy. The 12 Days gifts were mostly purchased but one gift that may mean the most to the ‘true love' is something made. In this case it must have been the “five golden rings!”
Don't stress yourself this year. More than half of all gifts purchased this year will be on a charge card this 18% interests. Don't create a crisis about bearing gifts. In the case of the wise men, they each brought something that was undoubtedly from their own possessions and the gifts they brought were practical! See: http://www.christiananswers.net/dictionary/wisemen.html // ("The record does not specifically say that there were three, or that they were kings; this is assumed by some from the number and types of gifts that were given to Jesus (gold, frankincense, and myrrh). The gifts reflected the aspects of Christ's nature: gold to a king, myrrh to one who will die, and incense, as homage to a God. None of the Church Fathers suggested that these men were kings, but there was obvious wealth involved. It is possible that the wealth was theirs, or that they were religious or scholarly envoys of royalty in a distant land.")
Thursday, December 14, 2006
I Met The Christmas Story Yesterday!
Yesterday I met a man who is the Christmas story! His name is Dennis. I know, you expected me to say Jesus and refer to an Advent Sermon. But, as I reflect on the incredible testimony and witness of faith, I am once again brought low to the humble manger scene and Christ's humble birth.
Hope is defined through adversity! Dennis is a local pastor who is afflicted with a brain tumor. His prognosis isn't real positive. He will die. Yet, when I saw him yesterday, he spoke of faith and gave praise to God. It is through his adversity that his faith is strongest. Dennis has every reason to give up and complain about his situation. Life has been very unfair to him. Yet, he didn't bad mouth his condition, he welcomed it and spoke of how his faith has grown. WOW! It is through adversity and testing that hope is born.
Mary and Joseph faced many hardships not to mention Herod's attempted on their young son's life! Yet as the Magi visited them, they realized that hope was born. Jesus was born in humble means and through adversity and yet his birth brought so much hope. Mary undoubtedly experienced the pain of giving birth but also would come to know of the inner pain of loosing a son to death on a cross. Yet, her courage is clear. In the scripture she held onto hope through out her life.
Today, as we face hardships and problems, may we experience hope. It will bring joy to our soul and carry us through any adversity.
Dennis has hope. That is why he can face such a difficult illness. It is why he has a living and wonderful testimony for others. He knows of a hope that the world did not and can not give! His hope is in the Lord.
Just remember today, friend, that our joy is not circumstance driven. It is based on eternal value.
Jesus is the reason!
Hope is defined through adversity! Dennis is a local pastor who is afflicted with a brain tumor. His prognosis isn't real positive. He will die. Yet, when I saw him yesterday, he spoke of faith and gave praise to God. It is through his adversity that his faith is strongest. Dennis has every reason to give up and complain about his situation. Life has been very unfair to him. Yet, he didn't bad mouth his condition, he welcomed it and spoke of how his faith has grown. WOW! It is through adversity and testing that hope is born.
Mary and Joseph faced many hardships not to mention Herod's attempted on their young son's life! Yet as the Magi visited them, they realized that hope was born. Jesus was born in humble means and through adversity and yet his birth brought so much hope. Mary undoubtedly experienced the pain of giving birth but also would come to know of the inner pain of loosing a son to death on a cross. Yet, her courage is clear. In the scripture she held onto hope through out her life.
Today, as we face hardships and problems, may we experience hope. It will bring joy to our soul and carry us through any adversity.
Dennis has hope. That is why he can face such a difficult illness. It is why he has a living and wonderful testimony for others. He knows of a hope that the world did not and can not give! His hope is in the Lord.
Just remember today, friend, that our joy is not circumstance driven. It is based on eternal value.
Jesus is the reason!
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Waiting: What Mary has to offer!
Ever wonder about how Mary, the mother of Jesus, dealt with the waiting of her first born son? Now I know little of the physical and emotional attachments of pregnancy. Yet I wonder what it was like for Mary to have to wait for the birth of her first born son. The Bible offers a few brief glimpse. We see in the Song of Mary that she pondered the reality of giving birth to the King of Kings. Another example is the description that is given about Mary. The Bible says that Mary "pondered" in her heart the profound reality of an immaculate conception.
Perhaps the most interesting perspective on waiting is told of how Mary and her espoused husband, Joseph traveled miles to their home town of Bethlehem to register for the census. It must have been terribly alarming for this young expected mother. Every situation she was confronted with was new. This young couple would experience for the first time all things: awkwardness of a young relationship, moving, a strange pregnancy, living in humble circumstances (a stable), and the visitation of unknown messengers; shepherds and wise men. How incredible were her circumstances.
The many questions she must have had. She must have been overwhelmed!
It is interesting to me that we see Mary so patiently involved. The fact that Mary was so patiently waiting for the deliver of her son, our saviour. WOW! Her profound faith is evident. She took a promise and carried the hope for the world in her womb and gave birth to the One who would save her people, and us, from sin. The message of waiting is profound!
I find that Mary has such incredible understanding of the meaning of waiting. I find at least three ideas that come from Mary in how she was able to wait.
1. Her pondering included questions that deepened her faith.
2. She was willing to take the journey (to Bethlehem) because of a promise, though it was not yet realized.
3. Her faith was not dependent upon having all the answers before she acted.
There simple truths can be applied to our journey too. Our questions deepen our resolve to believe. We are waiting for a hope net yet realized fully. Our faith is not dependent upon having all the answers before we act according to our faith. May this Christmas, though we wait, bring us a renewed hope in Christ.
Perhaps the most interesting perspective on waiting is told of how Mary and her espoused husband, Joseph traveled miles to their home town of Bethlehem to register for the census. It must have been terribly alarming for this young expected mother. Every situation she was confronted with was new. This young couple would experience for the first time all things: awkwardness of a young relationship, moving, a strange pregnancy, living in humble circumstances (a stable), and the visitation of unknown messengers; shepherds and wise men. How incredible were her circumstances.
The many questions she must have had. She must have been overwhelmed!
It is interesting to me that we see Mary so patiently involved. The fact that Mary was so patiently waiting for the deliver of her son, our saviour. WOW! Her profound faith is evident. She took a promise and carried the hope for the world in her womb and gave birth to the One who would save her people, and us, from sin. The message of waiting is profound!
I find that Mary has such incredible understanding of the meaning of waiting. I find at least three ideas that come from Mary in how she was able to wait.
1. Her pondering included questions that deepened her faith.
2. She was willing to take the journey (to Bethlehem) because of a promise, though it was not yet realized.
3. Her faith was not dependent upon having all the answers before she acted.
There simple truths can be applied to our journey too. Our questions deepen our resolve to believe. We are waiting for a hope net yet realized fully. Our faith is not dependent upon having all the answers before we act according to our faith. May this Christmas, though we wait, bring us a renewed hope in Christ.
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
The Attitude of Gratitude Changes Things!
This Thanksgiving season I reflect on the attitude. It is my conviction that our attitude determines much of the outcome of negative circumstances. In life, it seems that our ability to overcome negative situations is determined by way we look at things. Ninety percent of what happens to us is not circumstantial but attitudinal. It is about how we handle what happens to us that matters!
The problems with problems is that we give up too quickly when we fall on hard times. The challenges of life have little to do with the life and death issues but more about attitude. Pastor Bob, my pastor, gave a simple illustration about a squeeze bottle of honey. He asked, "If I squeeze the bottle, what will come out? Honey!" He continued, "What if the bottle contained vinegar?" The point is clear. Whatever is in us will come out when we are squeezed.
Under pressure we produce what we are. If our attitude us expectant of bad outcomes, so too will be our resolve. It is not that the circumstances of a situation changes but how we deal with a negative circumstance can effect the outcomes. It seems that Romans 8:28 rings familiar here. "And we know that all things work together for good to them that are called according to His purpose."
God has a plan, just as Jeremiah realized when he penned the words, "I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not harm you." God does want His best for us! Even in trouble, God can make something good come of it. So remember, that when times are hard, we don't have to become hard and bitter. When times treat us badly, we have a wonderful God who has a plan. Our part is to have the right attitude; an attitude of gratitude because it will change things!
The problems with problems is that we give up too quickly when we fall on hard times. The challenges of life have little to do with the life and death issues but more about attitude. Pastor Bob, my pastor, gave a simple illustration about a squeeze bottle of honey. He asked, "If I squeeze the bottle, what will come out? Honey!" He continued, "What if the bottle contained vinegar?" The point is clear. Whatever is in us will come out when we are squeezed.
Under pressure we produce what we are. If our attitude us expectant of bad outcomes, so too will be our resolve. It is not that the circumstances of a situation changes but how we deal with a negative circumstance can effect the outcomes. It seems that Romans 8:28 rings familiar here. "And we know that all things work together for good to them that are called according to His purpose."
God has a plan, just as Jeremiah realized when he penned the words, "I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not harm you." God does want His best for us! Even in trouble, God can make something good come of it. So remember, that when times are hard, we don't have to become hard and bitter. When times treat us badly, we have a wonderful God who has a plan. Our part is to have the right attitude; an attitude of gratitude because it will change things!
Sunday, November 12, 2006
FW: Quick thought on crisis.
Finding Christ in Crisis is the unique role of the church. When the
church is being what it is called to be, its witness of Christ is
evident.
church is being what it is called to be, its witness of Christ is
evident.
I am glad when I discover a church being a reflection of Christ! So
that those in Crisis see the church respond with the Presence of Christ
with empathy and compassion.
Tuesday, November 07, 2006
Tragedy Followed By God's Touch!
2 Corinthians 1:3-6
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 5 For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. New International Version
When tragedy strikes any home there is a tremendous amount of confusion, questions, blame and numbness. Tragedy overwhelms our capacity to process and make sense of a situation. Those involved are so overwhelmed by the sudden loss their emotions become unable to process and they become overloaded! Grief takes over!
Recenly the Brookhaven Wesleyan Church was called upon to bring help, healing and comfort because of a tragic suicide. The whole church was impacted by this sudden and tragic death. The suicide of anyone no matter the age is tough to cope with but a loss of a teen is epecially difficult. This loss brought out difficult emotions for many.
Today, I wish to address a couple of issues that the church faces in times of incredible tragedy and loss. I wish to say first of all to anyone reading this article that I was so appreciative and impressed with the role our pastors served. Their compassion and outreach to the family was a witness to the love our God has for us in Christ. They brought a ministry of God's presence and they lifted up the hurting in such a wonderful way. They each dedicated themselves to prayer and spiritual guidance that helped the family and also assisted the church people through their own grief and loss. This article is not intended to bring complain or criticism to our staff or leadership at Brookhaven.
The first thing that happens in times of tremendous loss like this is a sense of helplessness. Many unanswered questions arise during these kinds of situations. Some may even feel frustrated and experience unrelated hurt and personal grief. For those that have experienced any loss during their lives they experience compounded grief. They are grasping to find condolence for their past grief while also feeling a responsibility to bring comfort to those closest to the family. Their grief is compounded because they also carry personal hurt and anquished unresolved from previous loss.
Another issue that occurs in the church body is a feeling of responsibility. Many questions why this tragedy was not overted. Some are dealing with the blaming cycle of grief. Others are faced with disbelief that such tragedy could have even happened at their church. They might even make comments wondering what is wrong that our church that such a tragedy could happen. Some may look to "fix"this tragedy and develop programs that can prevent such tragedy in the future.
For these brief reason I write this article. These two common issues stem from a desire to resolve to such unresolved grief. While it is understandable and with the best of intentions that the church looks for ways to prevent tragedy in the future, it is unrealistic to believe that somehow the church can. I wish to encourage the people of Brookhaven and other churches faced with such a tragedy. Clearly, this tragedy is unsettling and it is completely normal to feel uncomfortable. Tragedy is never giving, it only takes!
The role of the church as a community is never intended to prevent tragedy but it stands ready to serve those in need. A church at this is compassionate and caring will always be called upon to help the hurting and bring comfort to those in difficult situations. The church should not and can not create a "bubble" that prevents its people from experiencing pain and suffering. As long as we live we will be faced with hardship and tough times! I wish to encourage the church to believe that the reason Brookhaven was called upon in this way is because God knows that it can and will be a place of hope, healing and help in the Name of Christ!
Now a word about the two issues addressed. For those that have faced loss of a loved one, realize your own grief when other's face tragedy. Know that your grief is part of the process of healing you are still experiencing and that you will continue to experience your grief for many years to come. Acknowledge that you do hurt and it is okay to feel! Reach out to someone and let them care for you.
For the church that feels responsible. There is no amount of planning and prevention that can keep these tragedies from our door-step! While closeness and community have its place and every church should intentionally reach out to eachother, there are times when tragedies just happen. It is a fact of life this side of heaven! A church that is overly responsible may infact create greater stress on its membership and staff by always trying to "safe guard." Bad things just happen! Please do not miss this, the church is not designed to avoid, prevent, or keep tragedy from coming! The church's role is designed to respond to tragedy and be a compassionate extension of our savior's love!
A church is at its best when it stands ready to bring comfort and the message of God's love to those hurting. We will always wish we could avoid tragedy but may we never avoid it or those in need of the ministry that the church (the body of Christ) can provide! Thank God that the church did respond in time of need. What an incredible witness of God's love!
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 5 For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. New International Version
When tragedy strikes any home there is a tremendous amount of confusion, questions, blame and numbness. Tragedy overwhelms our capacity to process and make sense of a situation. Those involved are so overwhelmed by the sudden loss their emotions become unable to process and they become overloaded! Grief takes over!
Recenly the Brookhaven Wesleyan Church was called upon to bring help, healing and comfort because of a tragic suicide. The whole church was impacted by this sudden and tragic death. The suicide of anyone no matter the age is tough to cope with but a loss of a teen is epecially difficult. This loss brought out difficult emotions for many.
Today, I wish to address a couple of issues that the church faces in times of incredible tragedy and loss. I wish to say first of all to anyone reading this article that I was so appreciative and impressed with the role our pastors served. Their compassion and outreach to the family was a witness to the love our God has for us in Christ. They brought a ministry of God's presence and they lifted up the hurting in such a wonderful way. They each dedicated themselves to prayer and spiritual guidance that helped the family and also assisted the church people through their own grief and loss. This article is not intended to bring complain or criticism to our staff or leadership at Brookhaven.
The first thing that happens in times of tremendous loss like this is a sense of helplessness. Many unanswered questions arise during these kinds of situations. Some may even feel frustrated and experience unrelated hurt and personal grief. For those that have experienced any loss during their lives they experience compounded grief. They are grasping to find condolence for their past grief while also feeling a responsibility to bring comfort to those closest to the family. Their grief is compounded because they also carry personal hurt and anquished unresolved from previous loss.
Another issue that occurs in the church body is a feeling of responsibility. Many questions why this tragedy was not overted. Some are dealing with the blaming cycle of grief. Others are faced with disbelief that such tragedy could have even happened at their church. They might even make comments wondering what is wrong that our church that such a tragedy could happen. Some may look to "fix"this tragedy and develop programs that can prevent such tragedy in the future.
For these brief reason I write this article. These two common issues stem from a desire to resolve to such unresolved grief. While it is understandable and with the best of intentions that the church looks for ways to prevent tragedy in the future, it is unrealistic to believe that somehow the church can. I wish to encourage the people of Brookhaven and other churches faced with such a tragedy. Clearly, this tragedy is unsettling and it is completely normal to feel uncomfortable. Tragedy is never giving, it only takes!
The role of the church as a community is never intended to prevent tragedy but it stands ready to serve those in need. A church at this is compassionate and caring will always be called upon to help the hurting and bring comfort to those in difficult situations. The church should not and can not create a "bubble" that prevents its people from experiencing pain and suffering. As long as we live we will be faced with hardship and tough times! I wish to encourage the church to believe that the reason Brookhaven was called upon in this way is because God knows that it can and will be a place of hope, healing and help in the Name of Christ!
Now a word about the two issues addressed. For those that have faced loss of a loved one, realize your own grief when other's face tragedy. Know that your grief is part of the process of healing you are still experiencing and that you will continue to experience your grief for many years to come. Acknowledge that you do hurt and it is okay to feel! Reach out to someone and let them care for you.
For the church that feels responsible. There is no amount of planning and prevention that can keep these tragedies from our door-step! While closeness and community have its place and every church should intentionally reach out to eachother, there are times when tragedies just happen. It is a fact of life this side of heaven! A church that is overly responsible may infact create greater stress on its membership and staff by always trying to "safe guard." Bad things just happen! Please do not miss this, the church is not designed to avoid, prevent, or keep tragedy from coming! The church's role is designed to respond to tragedy and be a compassionate extension of our savior's love!
A church is at its best when it stands ready to bring comfort and the message of God's love to those hurting. We will always wish we could avoid tragedy but may we never avoid it or those in need of the ministry that the church (the body of Christ) can provide! Thank God that the church did respond in time of need. What an incredible witness of God's love!
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Crisis and Happiness
The impact of trauma effects our happiness if happiness is but only circumstance-driven. Happiness is deeper than this. Many think happiness is related to materialism or even tied to good times. Happiness is not simply related to a feeling. It isn't just an emotion.
Psalm 1 says blessed is.... It relates to far more than an internal attitude. Its source is found in God.
So, when the storms of life come, we don't need to give up happiness. Sure, there is a time of mourning. There is an effect that is negative when trauma impacts our lives. I am not saying that we pretend to be happy when life's circumstance is negative. But, the inner strength of mankind should not easily taken away when faced with crisis.
Happiness is an inner confidence. It comes from the joy department of the inner soul! It is not simply to laugh or become cynical. It has an inner confidence that God is able to take this circumstance and make something beautiful. (Romans 8:28)
A Crisis Evangelist will demonstrate an inner strength - a joy - that goes deeper than trauma and circumstance. They are able to convey a sense of confidence. They are patient and empathetic. They provide a calming presence. While the world is rocked by crisis the evangelist will not preach but demonstrate a peace that passes all understanding.
Practicing the presence of God is our strength. We know that no matter the circumstance, God is with us.
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